[WhooOtWhooOtTina]

I know this isn't the right section to put this topic

Okay, I have a low self esteem,
but everyone says i'm really pretty
Even though, people says i am pretty and i shouldnt look too down on myself..
i still do.
I'm trying to accept who i am..but it's hard.
What can i do to improve my self esteem?

[peppermintsugar]

Not sound so mean at the beginning of your topic?
Pick out specific things about yourself that you don't like, and find ways to improve upon them in a way that makes you happy with what you see.

[snowpuffvy]

I use to be really shy when I was younger, and I've always been the "SECOND" one ppl looked at when my sister was always around me. I was the "ugly" one haha; I got through this stage by actually getting in front of people. I took these modeling classes and they made me do a lot of public speaking. If you are in front of people, you have to have confidence in yourself. Think of it this way, people think you are beautiful if you think you ARE beautiful. Proven fact. Believe in yourself, pick out the good in you and build from there.

I know you posted this bc you want others to boost it for you Because you are pretty!! SO grow some balls and really look at yourself

[MrPower]

Judging entirely from your post, it appears that you don't have low self esteem for several reasons.
1. big bolded letters demanding people to deal with you "posting this on the wrong section"
2. others telling you that you're really pretty. I would assume your self esteem would receive a major boost
3. You telling people to check out your picture on your 411 for proof of said "prettiness"

If this isn't the case, I sincerely apologize and ask of your forgiveness. (Not being sarcastic)
Well, the first step is identification-- which you've done. Set some goals and achieve them... It doesn't have to be big, but start somewhere. It may be time for you to find something in your life that you excel at. It could be a hobby, sports, or anything you enjoy doing. Have some confidence in yourself, appreciate the things around you, and perhaps you'll achieve that higher self esteem you desire.

[MNLV27]

I agree with MrPower you don't really come off as someone who has low self esteem.
But if you do, just try to be more confident. Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself, you're beautiful inside and out.

[ExpiredRamen]

That period after on is really bothering me for some reason

Um..I'll just agree with mr power

[Ida]

Well...I don't know what to say, I guess you do have low self-esteem because it seems as though you have to resort to this attention-seeking method to attract people to your 411, which coincidentally opened on the same day you opened this thread? Hmmm.... But like someone else already did, if that is not the case - it is misjudgement on my part, apologies.

The whole self-esteem issue, to be honest - only you, yourself, can fix it. Trust me, I have been through many crap for it...and nothing help, it is all you.

-ida

[fredinsac]

Bold lettering equals confidence now? A lot of people are completely different when they're online than in real life. She could be one of them.

Bottomline is that no matter how many people you get to tell you you're pretty to try and boost your confidence if you're not happy with yourself at the end of the day it's completely pointless. It's called "self-esteeem" for a reason. No one can control this as much as yourself. Honestly, I don't think you're attractive. A good looking person? Maybe, but without the confidence you're just not appealing.

Be happy with who you are and people in general will start to find you all the more attractive.

That or get breast implants.

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

-___- it sounds like you just want us to look at your 411 and be like. "omg you're so gorgeous, i don't know why you've got low self esteem."
ANYWAYS.

you can start by not putting yourself down. and realizing what you're good at instead of picking at all the stuff you're not good at.

[WhiteRabbitsTime]

SOLUTION: Post MORE pictures of yourself on Soompi thus, generating MORE comments = higher self esteem.

If not, go look in the mirror and chant "I'm beautiful...I'm sexy...I'm hot..." one million times.


P.S. if you have low self esteem, why are you posting photos of yourself online????

[JinEnjuce]

I know this isn't the right section to put this topic on.but deal with it.

Okay, I have a low self esteem,
but everyone says i'm really pretty ( click on my 411 for pictures )
What can i do to improve my self esteem?

You want to improve your self esteem, eh?

It's simple. All you gotta do is repeat after me:
"I am awesome. There's no one like me in this world, and whoever doesn't love me or want to be my friend, their loss. I might not have everything I want, but I have a pretty damn good life."

Bam, just like magic, everything brightens up. Because this is all in the mind, you know.

[chiluvskk]

i don't think you are that pretty. :X
and you seem more stuck up than having low self-esteem lols.

[ChingGoo]

you're funny OP
i hope this boosts your selfesteem

[aubrei]

deal with it, eh?

do you think you're pretty?
seems to me like you're just trying to get some self esteem by having people tell you you're pretty through this thread.

maybe being 'pretty' isnt what you are insecure and have low self esteem about.
my guess is your personality isnt 'pretty' and thats whats getting you down.

some people i know only look average at best, but i would consider them pretty, because they have an amazing personality. maybe you should work on that.

[daintymilk]

Seems like your fishing for compliments.

[Shuga]

Even the ugliness of something you've done or said can change your beauty.

Do not abuse the esteem you do have by adopting an impolite and selfish attitude.

[mintcracker]

Yip. A person that has low self esteem would like sooo make a 411 and a thread linking to their 411.


give me a break.

[ElectroHime]

agree with PristineNyte, you started off kinda rough there, doesnt make you sound like you have low self esteem.

Self-esteem and confidence, is really up to the person.
You could be the most hideous woman and think you look like a beautiful sparkling queen,
or you could be beautiful and amazing and hate how you look (because it gives you disadvantages, you dont like how you look, dont believe what people say). There are many reasons~
It's really how you view yourself and take other people's comments around you.
Though i think no matter who, beautiful or not , people should have a little more love for their self.
Pick out some of your good points they dont have to be just physical , they can be things like how you think, you're perspectives, certain talents you have, etc. Beauty matters by the perspective of who's looking.
Im sure there are plenty of wonderful things about yourself, you should embrace it, and use it a fuel for confidence.
Go ahead and be a little proud, flaunt what you have a bit !
It's all about attitude, be positive!
If there are things you dont like or are not satisfied with, thats ok!
Everyone is doing their best , men and women , were all trying to improve those things about ourselves arent we?
And if there are thing you dont like about yourself, dont fee so bad about it.

A lot of people self-esteem problems based on their physical appearance, but the truth is. We dont have to worry so much , because people other people arent looking at us as much as we think they do.
So no need to patch up all those little things.
Be more free , instead of feeling tight up , nervous, embarrassed. Spread your arms, and dont worry so much.
People, are always too hard on themselves, forgive yourself for a little bit .

Dealing with self esteem, if you do ever get negative comments , dont feel depressed and angry, instead figure out why they said it and if it's true what you can do to improve that part of yourself. So a lot of reflecting on who you are needs to happen if you want to feel better about yourself.

Also another thing, people are usually afraid of not being liked for reasons.

Play up the beautiful part of you
When you're out there , think you're beautiful! tell yourself you are !
say it in your mind "IM GORGEOUS!" , eventually you'll start feeling better.

But also dont get too carried away with it, confidence shouldnt be something that would smother other people around you, it should be like a scent ~ subtle but strong.

For me i have a lot of physical imperfections and personality wise ones too~i dont like them,
and everyday im doing my best to change them, hide them, anything.
Were all human after all.
but there are a lot of things i love about who i am , that i dont think anyone else is like.
There are parts of myself, that amaze me and im really grateful for having.
And i have really ugly days when i look like a troll, but i love to dress up and do things that make me feel beautiful!
I nede to feel comfortable with people and what im doing, otherwise im crazy self-conscious.
I try not to let negative comments affect how i think about things, i dont allow negativity to warp my perspective of the world. When i walk in my high heels , i feel gorgeous ! There! that's a good example, wearing something you love might boost your confidence as well.
Above all, i make myself beautiful and feel beautiful not for other people,
im not trying to impress guys or other women,
im not fishing for compliments,
im not doing it to stand out,
I do things for me, things that make me happy, and comfortable with who i am.
That's when i feel the most confident.
That's the key


Do your best ! ♥

PS. Sorry i wrote a like an essay. I doubt anyone will even read this.....

[onFiRE*]

Low self-esteem sucks and I just want you to know that you're not the only one that's going through it. :[ I don't think there's anything that you can really do that will boost your confidence in the long-term, unless you truly learn to not give a bull, which is really, really hard for people with low self esteem. It's something you've just got to deal with. Some days it's not bad at all, but other days it will kill you. I hope you'll learn to cope with it. My best advice is just try & stop caring. Life is so much easier once you do. You're only human, you can't please everyone. If people are being stupid, you don't have to take that crap from them. Just live on. Life doesn't stop for anyone, so make the best of it. :] Good luck hun.

[RYUUSEi]

Yip. A person that has low self esteem would like sooo make a 411 and a thread linking to their 411.

give me a break.

This is what I got from reading what you posted: "Everyone says I'm really pretty. Here's my thread."

I doubt you have low self-esteem.