[Lilaaa]

What do you do when the person you're with, you love them so much but yet for some unknown reason you guys clash like cats and dogs.. I'm talking arguments left and right, break up to make up. Would you eventually give up or hold on in hope that things will get better sooner than later?

I'm currently in a situation like this with my boyfriend and it's tearing me/us apart. I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm so torn. We both love each other very much but we're constantly fighting, and yes when times are good, they're indeed REALLY good.. but when it's bad, don't even get me started :/ it makes us both wanna give up sometimes. I know in the end, it's up to you to decide whether the good times are worth the bad times, but I'm having trouble deciding. What's your opinion on this? I'm at my wits end...

Speaking of which, have any of you guys ever been in a "love/hate" relationship and what are your experiences with it? How did you deal with it and what was the outcome?

[snowpuffvy]

How long have you guys been dating? Usually people stop the argument stage around the 5 month of dating..If you guys are still arguing..and if it's taking that big of a toll on your life. The best thing to do is just move on. Sometimes letting go is for the best.. :/ Or maybe as of right now,it's just not the right time in your lives to be together. Maybe one day in the future, things will work out.

Hope that helped a little..It's a little harder for me to say, since I don't really know you guys complete circumstances.

[peppermintsugar]

^^ Kinda like they said, my boyfriend and I fought a lot, and big arguments, during the first six or so months of the relationship. It's the time that you have to be deciding whether the things you fight about are things you can get over or not. We could. Sometimes we still have slight clashes, but nothing like we used to.

[L.FOR.LOVE]

have you guys tried possibly taking a proper break to sort everything out and like have some time apart rather than just on and off

i've been in a somewhat love/hate relationship of some sort
but our arguments weren't that bad, in fact it made us see each other's side more and be more empathetic, so i suppose it was for the better

[WhiteRabbitsTime]

My lover and I would fight over dumb things and then it came to the point when I just did the opposite and IT WORKED!

EXAMPLE:

Me: "Why do you always have to be annoying?"

Him: "What?! BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH!!!!!!"

Me: "What ever!!! @#%#$%@#$#@%$%@%#$%$#"


Now, when I started to do things differently......


Me: "Why do you always havve to be annoying?"

Him: "What?! BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH!!!!!!"

Me: "Oh, you're right. I'm sorry- I wuv you :-)"

Him: "...............................O_____O???????"

When it starts to take effect.......


[b]Me: "Why do you always havve to be annoying?"

Him: "Oh, BB I know you're just being cute:-) You're so cute when you're mad~"

Me: "I know :-)."

Him: ":-)b]



It's all psychology and potty training a dumb dog. I hope things work out!

[JinEnjuce]

What do you do when the person you're with, you love them so much but yet for some unknown reason you guys clash like cats and dogs.. I'm talking arguments left and right, break up to make up. Would you eventually give up or hold on in hope that things will get better sooner than later?

I'm currently in a situation like this with my boyfriend and it's tearing me/us apart. I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm so torn. We both love each other very much but we're constantly fighting, and yes when times are good, they're indeed REALLY good.. but when it's bad, don't even get me started :/ it makes us both wanna give up sometimes. I know in the end, it's up to you to decide whether the good times are worth the bad times, but I'm having trouble deciding. What's your opinion on this? I'm at my wits end...

Speaking of which, have any of you guys ever been in a "love/hate" relationship and what are your experiences with it? How did you deal with it and what was the outcome?

It sounds like a communication issue.

[IntangiblyYours]

When I read this, it immediately reminded me about my boyfriend and I. o.O

We've been going out for 11 months now and it wasn't until recently (about a month or so) that we've really started improving in our relationship. The first eight or so months were okay, and like you, when things were good, they were really good. However, we still argued very frequently. I don't think there's a subject we haven't touched upon or argued about. Around August to September (8-9 months), things got significantly bad. We pretty much couldn't stand each other and nearly broke up several times. In October, we did break up, and we thought that was going to be the end of us. But when it came down to it, we couldn't let each other go.

Although the break didn't last long, I think it really helped us. We spent a lot of time talking, and even though we didn't really want to talk to each other sometimes, we did anyway. We discussed our problems with one another, our feelings about each other, and about the things we wanted. It was through talking that we realized we still wanted to be together.

No one can change overnight, but for the sake of a relationship, the two people involved need to compromise and work with one another. Instead of arguing back all the time, if it's over something small, just take a step back and let him have his way with it. If he notices that your arguing has decreased, next time you bring up something he doesn't particularly argree with, he may not want to start a fight over it and will let it slide. If there's something about him that you don't like, you're going to have to accept it (and vice versa). Loving someone means accepting them, flaws and all.

I think...When you sit and think about how much your significant other means to you, how much they've done for you, and how much they love you, you learn to really appreciate them and that tends to overshadow the insignificant negatives. As the saying goes, "You never know what you have until it's gone," but wouldn't it be better to realize it while you still have him?

Remember, he's feeling the same things you are. You both want to give up sometimes, but you haven't. That means he's putting up with just as much as you are, and that means he loves you a lot, or else he wouldn't even bother. Here's a quote I find true: "If he takes the time to argue with you, then he cares more about you than you think he does." So focus on that.

Most likely, it can't get any worse, so any step taken would be for the better. Besides, you'll run out of things to argue about eventually (as long as you don't argue about the same things over and over).

Also, I agree with JinEnjuce. There is definitely a communication issue going on.

Best wishes! :] Sorry for the long post. >.<

[fireangel]

We broke up. Haha. We weren't mature enough to let go our ego aside. We still love each other, but it hurts less. We know if anything happens we will always have each other in the end. It is really hard to move on. But we were unhappy with each other. when ever we fought, we thought we could do better. So we are trying other options, and if there is no other option then we have each other. Let go.

[snowpuffvy]

We broke up. Haha. We weren't mature enough to let go our ego aside. We still love each other, but it hurts less. We know if anything happens we will always have each other in the end. It is really hard to move on. But we were unhappy with each other. when ever we fought, we thought we could do better. So we are trying other options, and if there is no other option then we have each other. Let go.

Good job

[sus]

yup love hate relationship takes a toll on u big time!!
for the first year of our relationship it was pretti myuch like that
fite everysingle time we saw each other
it was cos we had different ideas and expectations in the relationship

hes had mani gfz b4.. n to be honest he treated them pretti badli (well in my standards).. n i saw those habits come thru my relationship and im not the type of girl to take it
so we fought a lot

i broke up wiht him mani times... but we got bak together cos he didnt wanna lose me yada yada yada
i guess with a lot of perseverance n patients i tried to make him a better bf

after mani mani tears.... we have a better relationship now... cos we both work at it..,
i guess if hes willin to change.. n u too... then u can make the relationship work....

[brap]

"It's all psychology and potty training a dumb dog." Sounds like you don't think highly of him, I hope you don't resent him because when resentment enters a relationship it's pretty hard work to get it back on track. But the main key is communication and trying to understand each other because you want to make it work, rather than just thinking "how can I get him to be the way I want him to", instead think "what can I do to make this relationship work".

[Meenuh]

^^ Kinda like they said, my boyfriend and I fought a lot, and big arguments, during the first six or so months of the relationship. It's the time that you have to be deciding whether the things you fight about are things you can get over or not. We could. Sometimes we still have slight clashes, but nothing like we used to.

I was actually the same way with my bf until there came a point where we both decided to actually try to fix what it was we were fighting about. Communication really does wonders. Both of you should be willing to not let your anger get the best of you and try to figure out ways to avoid unnecessary fights. Talk about whatever it is that made you two react that way in the first place. Once you learn more about the other person, you know what makes them angry and what doesn't and you learn from it. If it's worth it, really give it your all and try to learn more about eachother through communication.

We still have our little arguments here and there but what relationship doesn't? We're doing better than ever and it's almost 2 years for us and I can only feel us growing stronger. Each fight is a new learning experience for the both of us.