[lucky_tin06]

Okae prob I exaggerated the title a little bit but I really dont know what to do..
its sorta a long story so please bear w/ me


So,the thing is shes "scarred for life" cuz of one incident in middle school.

-This girl (bully) ALWAYS made fun of her accent. I mean she would call her in front of the class to read
just so she could hear her accent. She would laugh out loud w/ her friends, make fun of her, trip her,
and anything u can ever imagine.Now, of course I told my bf to stand up 4 herself but the thing is she
really has low self esteem + the bully making fun of her wasnt really helping. So one day I finally
had it and brought her 2 a teacher I trusted and made her tell the teacher whats been happening n
she jst started crying. and of course the teacher told the principal what was the "bully" been doing
but it was anonymous.and so everything was fine for a year.

BUT, now it's our 2nd year in High school & 4rm freshmen- until now people who dont know what happened in MS are still making fun of her even though her grammar def. improved.I mean when she just mispronounces a word, people would just make fun of her accent. And u would think its no Big deal but the thing is she would remember All the BAD memories that happened in MS. So, when shes in front of me shell just cry and remember all the bullying she experienced. theres days she wont even talk so pipol wont make fun of her.

I mean Ive tried telling her that "u talk fine", "those pipol jst have nothing to do." But I really dont know what to do.

So please help me & Im really sorry that its really long
(ps telling those pipol is not a solution cuz for her it's an intimate experience
she cant share telling random pipol)

[snowpuffvy]

It doesn't sound like you can do much for her. It's all up to her to decide if she wants to change her life around..She just needs to be strong. Everyone has their bullies, some can take it more then others. I think the only thing you can do for her is encourage her and really convince her that her speech is fine. You might just have to get really mad at her? If I were in your situation, and if my friend kept hiding herself like that, I would get really mad at her. Your words might sink in?

This situation is a bit hard to fix, because it's all up to her. I hope she'll come through though

[Poop-Shoop-A-Loop]

If you're there when people make fun of her for any little mistake she does or her accent, give them an evil glare. Or be like "do you have to be such an ass?" They'll probably eventually stop, and hopefully she'll slowly gain more confidence.

[des monstres]

people who are bullied can get emotionally scarred for the rest of their life.
i'm learning about it in school.
there are long term effects and they can be dangerous to one's health.

my cousin was bullied when she was younger.
and after high school, she had enough of that bullcrap.
now she won't take anyone's crap.
she's gotten a lot tougher.. well, really tough. lol.
it's really terrible if you get on her bad side.

there's really not too much you can do for her.
she needs to learn how to stick up for herself and become a stronger person.

be there for her.
that's what she really needs.
comfort her and give her advice.
be an outlet for her, i guess.
when she needs to rant, just listen.

[whood]

Not everyone is a bully to her right?
I think if she made more friends, she would feel better about herself.
Its usually easier to stand up for yourself if you have friends to support you.

[KOGEPANN;)]

You're a good friend, just keep giving her pep talks and keep being there for her.
Help boost her confidence up, introduce her to more people? Give it some time, and have some hope, I'm sure she'll break out of this situation eventually.

[SayurixPark]

You're a good friend, just keep giving her pep talks and keep being there for her.
Help boost her confidence up, introduce her to more people? Give it some time, and have some hope, I'm sure she'll break out of this situation eventually.

I agree with this and everyone's reply on here.
It a shame that people can still be so naive in this day and age.
I don't know.. all i can really say is that your friend isn't the only one that's going through this. it happens alot to people ... it's happening to a guy in my class but he's so funny and smart once you get to know him.
Continue to encourgae her and give her support like you've always done. You truly are a good friend to her.

At some point, she's gonna have to get over people laughing at her or making snide comments.
Even though it can potentially scar her, it will hopefully shape her to become a stronger person than she is now.

[sunstori]

Tell her that not everyone in the world is as cruel as the bullies. You're a great example.

Bullying is bound to happen whether you're in high school or the work force. The fact that she is exposed to it earlier in life means she will learn how to deal with it better than some other adults who experience it later.

Not to say that bullying is appropiate, but like everyone else says, your friend will become stronger through this.

For now, just stick with her and although it may be hard to watch her cry all the time, tell her that there are plenty of mature people like you in the world!

Good on you for helping her.