[foreverwith_you]

..has a bad reputation ㅠㅠ......
would you still like him?

the guy that i kinda have a crush on
has a pretty bad reputation.
not the "bad boy" kind lol
but the "loser" kind =S
...

[ajjang]

if you really like him, i don't see how it matters.

[jas0n]

You should get with him and make him a winner!

[k.minho]

Other peoples opinions shouldn't matter.

[peppermintsugar]

Yeah, I dated a guy with the player reputation.
And go figure, I got played.

[mintcracker]

Well depends on what lots of ppl says bout him.
Reputations might not be all true you know. Size him up, see for yourself, just be wary.

[Courtknee]

Depends on what kind of bad reputation.
If it was... 'he does drugs and fights a lot" - I probably wouldn't care. I'd still like him.
But if it was 'he's a player, he's going to hurt you' - then probably not.

But this is exactly what happened to me recently.
The guy I'm currently dating smokes weed, drinks, and says really suggestive stuff to other people. (male and female lol)
It doesn't bother me a lot because I know he has good intentions. But other people see it as "he's a player/bad influence" etc.
And I get lectures from certain friends (the innocent/not into the dating scene ones). I appreciate them for caring though.

[ShadowMax76]

yeah, i'd totally dump his loser face cos he's so low on the social ladder. he can't do me any good - what's the use of dating a guy if i just like him and he's not popular?

if you want to be a romantic. you'll see that as being a superficial person.
if you're realistic, you may see that as reason -and not pursue this relationship. or perhaps as a challenge to conquer for the base of a strong relationship [though.. couples break up over the most idiotic of reasons even when they conquer something big]

[XangelXtranX]

Hmm..Yea I see that is a big hard to deal with in high school since you know people love to judge other, but if your older and mature I don't think it should be a problem..if you happy and actually like him..suree
"Those whos mind dont matter, those who matter dont mind " =]

[cheerydumdum]

i'd take that into consideration...sorta. i mean, i can't help who i like, but i suppose i can control what i do with those feelings. it depends on what people say and who's saying it. might be true. might not be. i would not rush things and i would watch to see if he's really what people say he's like.

[rachilde]

Reputations are one dimensional and there's a reason why, in a court of law, both the defendant and the plaintiff get attorneys. The attorney for the defendant (whether he be a rapist or murderer or some innocent schmuck who got caught at the wrong place at the wrong time) doesn't necessarily have to believe that the defendant is innocent so much as believe that everyone should have the right to argue their case. In a court of law, both parties are represented. In a reputation situation, there is only one representation: the public's. And, as we all know, what the public thinks of you and how you really are don't always line up. Give the guy the chance to plead his case--but don't necessarily believe him. Weigh the evidence he brings to the table against the evidence of his accusers.

I'm a big fan of rationality. I like people who I rationally believe are good for me--and I disregard the rest.

[theninthtrack]

Well it depends on the kind of reputation. If he's being called a 'loser' or 'nerd' then I wouldn't really care. You never really know someone until you actually make an effort to. But on the other hand, I'm really not finding players attractive, it's kind of like a turn-off. So when a guy has a reputation as a player, I'd drop the thought of even liking him immediately.

In your case, don't listen to what other people say. Reputations shouldn't always be the truth about that person.

[FROSTEDflakes]

Yeah, I dated a guy with the player reputation.
And go figure, I got played.

yup. same thing happened to me.

[vTecPower]

Just stay away from players.


Also, what makes this person a "loser"? I consider players to be losers. ROFL

Is he a bum?? If loser = bum, then stay away from that too.

[peachgirlxo]

date him. who cares what others think, lol.
wait, like the person above me said, what kind of loser? like a nerd? or a bum? cause if hes a nerd, then yeah go for it but if hes a bum.. yeaah.. no. then again its your choice!

[yerathy]

I don't really know what u mean by "loser" reputation. Do u mean like he's a loner or just unpopular or something like that? If that's the case, then u are doubting urself because you're scared or embarrassed of what others would think of u if u dated him.
If u really like him, I'm sure you wouldn't ask this question.
Still, good luck and don't let others judge you or your preferences

[this_gyrl_lily]

If YOU like him, that's all that should matter. But I'm being irrational here.
Like if you're already cool and chill with most people, try putting in a few good words about him.
Words like:"You know, he's really not as bad as people think. He's actually kind of cute." Or something like that.
Good luck!

[sixth.]

There are many reasons why he might be considered a 'loser'; still, social status/reputation has never really stopped me from liking anyone - far better than liking a guy that's known to be a complete ass.

[Malice_Kaiser]

Wow. This thread is really depressing.
"I like this guy but everyone else says he's a loser, what should I do?"

If you like him does it matter what other people think of him? So what did this guy do in the first place that he deserves the label "loser"? And did you ever stop to think that because you like him, because he obviously has likeable traits about him, maybe he's not such a loser afterall?

[secretwishess]

It doesnt really matter what people say.. Its just that
if you like him. than thats all it matters. Carinq what other people
think of him is bad. If he likes you& you like him. than thats all it matters.