[whenaicu]

I met my ex a few months ago lets call him S. This was when, the boy I liked before him (lets call him Q), decided to leave for china. When I first met S, his friend friend was dating my friend. Since us two both being the third wheels, we hung out alone most of that weekend. As I met more of his group (they are chinese boys) they'd talk about me in chinese, saying i was "pretty" and all that.He called dibs on me though and he asked me out a week later.

The thing is, he lived in another state. It took him more than 9 hours to drive here, but he'd willingly do it every week. He told me he'd never had a serious girlfriend. Everything he did though, always, I felt like I couldn't trust him or my instincts tell me he was fake, he didn't trust me either. When we'd text he'd always ask me who I was with, what I was doing. I knew he was the jealous type as much as he hid it, so I started avoiding my guy friends, I'd never mention boys around him, however as time went on he'd get very jealous and ask me if I liked this other boy, the boy I liked before I met him. When my friend and her boyfriend (S's friend) broke up, I told him he should find a girlfriend where he lives. It was too much effort to be with me, and also, Q came back.

I avoided Q, to the extent Q would run after me. Q, could make me happy with one simple gesture, but S couldn't. So I broke up with S because, I couldn't keep doing this, Q was winning me back. Q and I never dated, but I guess I'll always like him. S always make me feel like I did everything wrong, he could go out with girls, he could smoke and stay out late and I'd tell him I didn't care even though it hurt. He realised how upset i was though so he'd tell me if he would hang out with them. He'd become so different when we dated, he was no longer friendly like he was. He'd be controlling and ask me for sex. I never gave in though, and he'd act all sad and cry and drink. I felt so guilty, and I gave him my attention. After all this, I told him lets just be friends.

I'm so sorry this so long, but it's been 2 weeks since we ended. He came back up here, and his friends all saw me out with another male friend. They kept staring at me and he texted me saying he was up here, I asked him "want to hang out" but didn't reply. Just a few days before he told me he got a new girlfriend.I was like "are you happy" he said "no" I asked why then he says "I tried my best to forget you, I still love you"

I have no idea what he wants from me... Why is he acting like this?

[WhiteRabbitsTime]

1. He's being immature.
2. Booty-call.
3. He misses you.

I think it's all three.

[Lie]

I have no idea what he wants from me... Why is he acting like this?

Because he has no idea what he actually wants. With all due respect (being that 90% of Soompi is under 20), most people under 25 (myself included) tend not to have any idea what they really want when it comes to romance. Which is why I think it's better for people not to approach dating seriously until they're mature enough to sustain a real relationship (without all the extra back and forth nonsense that's going on in your situation).

[ShadowMax76]

Why is he acting like this?

did you expect him to be all lovey-dovey and pleasant after a break-up?
best pals?
nothing changed?
how things were in that jolly old time in the beginning?

_ if there were no feelings in the relationship, that would've been possible.

Why is he acting like this? . he's trying to get over you. and prove that to himself and you, that you don't mean all that much to him.

i don't think it'll happen. him getting over you.

what does he want?
evidently, he wants you to feel guilty. in his eyes, he wants you to suffer how he supposedly did. he's probably 'immature' and whiny, but hey. that's what the madness of 'love' does to a person.

solution: leave him alone. for his sake.

though i wanna ask. what do you want from him?

[whenaicu]

@shadowmax: though i wanna ask. what do you want from him?
I wanted to be his friend. I want him to be happy. He just, calls me, at random hours. or asks my friends about me, and if I'm with Q yet.

I doubted him liking me, and he was out partying when I broke up with him. He was like "okay, lets be friends". He'd act like he couldn't care less, then his friends would call me telling me he's drunk and he has stomach problems.

He knows I liked him a lot, my feelings were hurt aswell. He'd make me wait for him two hours then blow me off, and he'd put his friends first and if I did the same I was the "selfish one".

[JinEnjuce]

Wait.. so did Q stop being friendly or S?

[whenaicu]

@JinEnjuce: It's S this is about. I've never dated Q, he and I have just been really close for a long time.

[LiIy]

I met my ex a few months ago lets call him S. This was when, the boy I liked before him (lets call him Q), decided to leave for china. When I first met S, his friend friend was dating my friend. Since us two both being the third wheels, we hung out alone most of that weekend. As I met more of his group (they are chinese boys) they'd talk about me in chinese, saying i was "pretty" and all that.He called dibs on me though and he asked me out a week later.

The thing is, he lived in another state. It took him more than 9 hours to drive here, but he'd willingly do it every week. He told me he'd never had a serious girlfriend. Everything he did though, always, I felt like I couldn't trust him or my instincts tell me he was fake, he didn't trust me either. When we'd text he'd always ask me who I was with, what I was doing. I knew he was the jealous type as much as he hid it, so I started avoiding my guy friends, I'd never mention boys around him, however as time went on he'd get very jealous and ask me if I liked this other boy, the boy I liked before I met him. When my friend and her boyfriend (S's friend) broke up, I told him he should find a girlfriend where he lives. It was too much effort to be with me, and also, Q came back.

I avoided Q, to the extent Q would run after me. Q, could make me happy with one simple gesture, but S couldn't. So I broke up with S because, I couldn't keep doing this, Q was winning me back. Q and I never dated, but I guess I'll always like him. S always make me feel like I did everything wrong, he could go out with girls, he could smoke and stay out late and I'd tell him I didn't care even though it hurt. He realised how upset i was though so he'd tell me if he would hang out with them. He'd become so different when we dated, he was no longer friendly like he was. He'd be controlling and ask me for sex. I never gave in though, and he'd act all sad and cry and drink. I felt so guilty, and I gave him my attention. After all this, I told him lets just be friends.

I'm so sorry this so long, but it's been 2 weeks since we ended. He came back up here, and his friends all saw me out with another male friend. They kept staring at me and he texted me saying he was up here, I asked him "want to hang out" but didn't reply. Just a few days before he told me he got a new girlfriend.I was like "are you happy" he said "no" I asked why then he says "I tried my best to forget you, I still love you"

I have no idea what he wants from me... Why is he acting like this?

Need I say more?

[FraZZLE]

Need I say more?

Please do. Otherwise, you're not saying anything.

[sus]

just forget bout him
u onli dates him a few months rite??

not worth all the mess n trouble
dont think so much

[JinEnjuce]

@JinEnjuce: It's S this is about. I've never dated Q, he and I have just been really close for a long time.

Okay. Just that 2/3 of the story being about Q threw me off.

S was lying, he just wants your body. There are guys who will do that; seem like Mr. Perfect, then when you're together, you see how he really is. The reason why he is still hung on you is because you were the one untamed.