[~~:Usagi-Ayumi:~~]

there has been a lot of news, about young teenagers killing themself, because of a broken relationship, and even more becuase of office problems and family problems...
What more shocking is that most of the people who kills themself is around 16 - 23yrs old....
I have try helping young teenagers with these problems, but some reason they keep saying their mother and father wouldn't take their time out to listen to them...
I want to know what your ideas would be to stop them, from killing themself, because it really shocks me as I see young teenagers killing themself...

[boka]

i think simply listening to them would already be a great start. in what kind of context is your interaction with these troubled people?

have you ever noticed that jumping off a skyscraper seems to be more popular in hong kong than anywhere else? or is it just me?

[HKS457]

life is harder then you think there =.= (for the not so fortune people)
i believe it takes alotta thinking to think about killing yourself. guess the only way for you to help is to help them find happiness in life? 0_0

[swtanjel012]

alot of the reason for asians to kill themselves is because theres no communication between their parents and sometimes asians usually dont seek help like a therapist. parents can be just oblivious to the whole social aspect of their childrens life

[OOOOO]

i totally know how they feel...ive even thought about it becasue of my parents....
it seems as if they just dont want to admit to themselves that theyre child is having a hard time.... they tell me that all they want me to do is try my best and when i do and get bad grades they just need to make an excuse that i havent been trying my best....
after staying up and nothing getting any sleep, i just couldnt get up for achool and my mom came home and started yelling at me saying that shed stop talking to me of i kept it up...after hearing this atleast ten time i finally confronted my mother how she could say such a thing to her own daughter for such a small thing...her reply was.."thats ur problem... sying that going to school late was a small thing"
i was soo hurt... buti couldnt say anything...
its soo wierd but even when i was little the only person who actually made me cry was my family...theyve said soo many hurtful things to me when i was young.. and yet they wonder why i dont have a " good" relationship with them
sorry for the long post but i suggest that u go over to the house of that person ur helping and talk to thier parents...

[x1n-5atiablex]

^ i know what you're talking about...

these things dont JUST happen in asia, its whereever there are asian families,

in my case, my parents are "traditional" and believe that showing care and affection would "ruin" their ego and the way of life that they hold... so i never got any sort of affection... many of these parents are like this because their parents werent able to give them this "affection" therefore they are unable to cope with us when we need it.

asian parents believe that criticism is the best for a child, you wont believe how many times my parents nit pick at every single thing that i do, when i say its not my fault they would yell some more, its also annoying how they usually dont believe what you say, like if you get bad grades you say you tried, then they'll think of something that you did and blame it on that, *like playing games for relaxation, theyll say you game too much* or if you're sick and cant go to school, they'll just say you're lazy and yell at you some more

i know i may be generalizing, but this is how many asian parents are with me and my friends...

[talula]

i think that a lot of young ppl that want to kill themselves because of broken relationships has to do with a connection. i mean first off, their parents arent even there to listen to them and when they find a s.o. they have someone to talk to and share all their secrets. when their s.o. leave them, they think the world is over...u guys kno wat i mean?

its a viscious cycle.

[kswx3]

^ yeah...i agree.
It's whack when they're like yeah just come and talk to me & when you do they think it's no big deal, so much for supportive. -___-

[taeHee.x3]

^ i know what you're talking about...

these things dont JUST happen in asia, its whereever there are asian families,

in my case, my parents are "traditional" and believe that showing care and affection would "ruin" their ego and the way of life that they hold... so i never got any sort of affection... many of these parents are like this because their parents werent able to give them this "affection" therefore they are unable to cope with us when we need it.

asian parents believe that criticism is the best for a child, you wont believe how many times my parents nit pick at every single thing that i do, when i say its not my fault they would yell some more, its also annoying how they usually dont believe what you say, like if you get bad grades you say you tried, then they'll think of something that you did and blame it on that, *like playing games for relaxation, theyll say you game too much* or if you're sick and cant go to school, they'll just say you're lazy and yell at you some more

i know i may be generalizing, but this is how many asian parents are with me and my friends...

me too.. its really sad. most of my other non asian friends actually talk about stuff with their parents.. i think asian parents expect too much out of their children, they want them to be perfect. but thats really annoying because perfect isnt human.

[Tetra]

Maybe the parents aren't as open to the american-culture bust-in and hence restrict their children even more >___>

Is there anything about university entrance exams?

[~~:Usagi-Ayumi:~~]

Personally asia family really thinks too much about what they want from their kids, although sometime these hopes and dreams can cause more problems towards the child than what they think.

Not many years ago in HK a 9yr ago girl keeps getting in trouble with the teachers in her classroom because of a bad grade, and without warning this girl jumped out of the roof...which caused her mother to break down in tears as the school was fouced to know the main reason why the child kill herself...

The teacher who was teaching this child, told the reporters and police that the girl keeps lying about her classmate bullying her and taking her homework and stuff which caused her to break down in a lot of emotions, which turn out to be true, as the child was on sleeping pills and all, as it caused her to lose her true self.
The teacher was caused to misunderstanding the child, as her mother and father had told the teacher their daughters problem before, and wish to stop this bullying before it got out of hand, before the teachers could understand the real problem the girl jumped off the roof in her school uniform, as she had lose her mind...

the children who bully her, was question on why they may fun of her, and what was the main point of the fun, the boys who may fun of this girl told the teachers, that she had no friends at all and everyone around her called her weird, because she didn't look like her family....

I won't post the rest of the story as it's too sad...but yes in hong kong children's do enjoy hurting each other a lot, and sometime these bullying can cause self injuring and other problems...don't you agree?

[pure_joy]

yes i suppose the most likely reason for a person to result to killing themselves is because of the lack of support at home. i don't know if i am generalising but oh well. i think most parents these days tend to be rather busy in their work places and grant children the freedom to do the things they want, which includes extra money to "fend" themselves in a way.

but at the same time, they expect their kids to grow up the "perfect" kid you ever can imagine. like bringing home on a report card a straight A's or something that if they don't do well, they just take computers out of your life or something along that line? so when the kids faces problems, seriously, they ain't got anyone to turn to. since their strongest pillar at home is not even there, doesn't give them the least of self worth or feel like ppl do bother about their self existence. so i suppose. they can't take it anymore, they just resort to suicide. sometimes, i think the solution to have a bunch of really dependable buddies or that they believe in a higher being to at least bring them through periods of difficulties. make them a whole new stronger person if they get pass all these

[Jeong]

Yeah. In my opinion, generally all asian parents have some kind of hectic schedule for their children.
It really makes sense why these teens are killing themselves because they have a broken relationship with their friends/love. And as stated above, its obviously because of no support from the parents/family...they rely so much on their friends and when they get screwed with by them, they feel betrayed and have no one else to go to.

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[angelzstar]

Asian parents always demands way too much from their kids...they always compare their kids with their relatives......they put a lot of pressure on their children; i know cause my parents are like that...

Also, I do think broken relationships also have to do with the suicides.....When I went back two summers ago, I saw quite a lot of kids in relationships and they were younger than me too.........

[the.elephant]

it doesnt surprise me

i can see why teen would kill themselves since i too have thought about it myself

it was just a matter of carrying the ideas into real life...

but i guess the best thing is to listen to their problems and that's it
dont give them any advice or anything
just listen!!! that's all i wanted when i was at that stage
i never found anyone to listen for me but i got thru it cuz im really analytical and concluded that killing myself would cost a lot of money if i failed and that would just suck even more and plus i wanted to experience having a family of my own

also i wanted to try kiling myself so that i can get attention you know...

but this is all just my case... i dunno what others are like
but for me, i just wanted someone to listen to what i had to say and sympathize and tell me everything was gonna be okay and that somebody in this world actually cares about me and that they have my back if i should fall
i didnt want anyone telling me what to do, i just wanted them to listen

EDIT: i just re-read your first post... and yeah it's hard to talk to your parents about anything esp when you're not close to them
and esp when the parents are part of the problem

[makelovenoises]

yah..my family never have time for me..and my sis dun act like they care bout me. i tot of suicide too but yeh

[SarangxHae]

Alot of Asian parents only care about education and career.
It irritates, annoys, disgusts, saddens me.
Of course not all are like that and there's different extremes, but the whole idea makes me so angry.

[cystaltears]

article?

anyways... i think kids nowadays are just selfish and think for themselves... just because something goes wrong they choose to die... they can't solve the problem like that.. it's not like they'll get back into a steady relationship after they're dead.... scares me to think how many of those naive, selffish kids there are nowadays...

[tchuu<33]

i think the parents not listening to them is a problem
i think asian parents in general don't really understand what their kids go through and the pressure on them everyday since it's completely different from when they were younger