[liliuokalani]

One of my friends is thinking about joining a group, &... I was a bit curious about how it works. Taking into consideration I guess Personal Opinions would be great.

[AznBetty]

how it werks??
ok first u rush for them. when u find a sorority ur interested in, u rush for them. rushing is a period where the sisters get to noe u, and u get the noe the sisters. they get to learn about ur personalities and if they think you would be a good addition to their sorority. they make their decisions based on the opinion of all the sisters so its good to network and try to get to know all of them. after rushing, if they want you to be a potential sister, they give you a bid to pledge for them. u can accept or reject their offer. if u accept their bid, you and your pledge sisters pledge for them for a period of time. during this period, they give you tasks to do and if you dont do them well, you get penalties. there is no exact estimate of how long pledging takes because it depends on you, your pledge sisters, and how you perform the tasks given to you.
so yea... after your pledging process you "cross" and become a sister for life.
hope that answered your questions

[suehyun]

^ perfect. that's exactly how it works.

i myself am in a sorority and i love it. i love being a sister, i loved rush and i loved pledging.

[liliuokalani]

how it werks?? :huh:
ok first u rush for them. when u find a sorority ur interested in, u rush for them. rushing is a period where the sisters get to noe u, and u get the noe the sisters. they get to learn about ur personalities and if they think you would be a good addition to their sorority. they make their decisions based on the opinion of all the sisters so its good to network and try to get to know all of them. after rushing, if they want you to be a potential sister, they give you a bid to pledge for them. u can accept or reject their offer. if u accept their bid, you and your pledge sisters pledge for them for a period of time. during this period, they give you tasks to do and if you dont do them well, you get penalties. there is no exact estimate of how long pledging takes because it depends on you, your pledge sisters, and how you perform the tasks given to you.
so yea... after your pledging process you "cross" and become a sister for life.
hope that answered your questions :)

oh wow..
I heard about some of the things they had to do, but
I didn't think you would get penalties...

but yea
that's exactly what I wanted to know
thankyuuu :)

[HappiiBooger]

^ perfect. that's exactly how it works.

i myself am in a sorority and i love it. i love being a sister, i loved rush and i loved pledging.

hahahahhahaha PLEDGE SISTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i loveee you! <3 pyro

wheress ur i love my pledge sister? im gon cry now :'[
lol lol jk jk jk see you tomorrow. dance practice

aznbetty couldnt have explained it better!

[MikiRei]

ok first u rush for them. when u find a sorority ur interested in, u rush for them. rushing is a period where the sisters get to noe u, and u get the noe the sisters. they get to learn about ur personalities and if they think you would be a good addition to their sorority. they make their decisions based on the opinion of all the sisters so its good to network and try to get to know all of them. after rushing, if they want you to be a potential sister, they give you a bid to pledge for them. u can accept or reject their offer. if u accept their bid, you and your pledge sisters pledge for them for a period of time. during this period, they give you tasks to do and if you dont do them well, you get penalties. there is no exact estimate of how long pledging takes because it depends on you, your pledge sisters, and how you perform the tasks given to you.
so yea... after your pledging process you "cross" and become a sister for life.
hope that answered your questions

Ok - that...sounds....SCARY!!!! I don't like that - sounds like a cult and rushing sounds like sucking up. PLEDGE? Lol - if it's the type of pledging like the 3 brothers in Romance of the Three Kingdoms (whateva the English translation was - Chinese history - legend - bleh) where they generally like them and wanna be incredibly good and loyal friends to eachtoehr, then ok....that's ok....but ....DO TASKS? Get point? Penalties? Sounds like a popularity contest - hardly sound like a genuine friendship - ok, maybe u DO develop that after pledging but before that? I don't think so..........sounds like peer pressure can go under enormous play here - do tasks, do them well - no - outta the group - that's not friendship to me - not in my definition. *shiver*

No offence to ppl who like this but this just ain't my cup of tea. *shudder yet again*

[jcraze]

They crazy in america ...*runs*

[AznBetty]

Ok - that...sounds....SCARY!!!! I don't like that - sounds like a cult and rushing sounds like sucking up. PLEDGE? Lol - if it's the type of pledging like the 3 brothers in Romance of the Three Kingdoms (whateva the English translation was - Chinese history - legend - bleh) where they generally like them and wanna be incredibly good and loyal friends to eachtoehr, then ok....that's ok....but ....DO TASKS? Get point? Penalties? Sounds like a popularity contest - hardly sound like a genuine friendship - ok, maybe u DO develop that after pledging but before that? I don't think so..........sounds like peer pressure can go under enormous play here - do tasks, do them well - no - outta the group - that's not friendship to me - not in my definition. *shiver*

No offence to ppl who like this but this just ain't my cup of tea. *shudder yet again*

err... lolz ok.. should i maybe elaborate on ur cultlike view? (...i dont even noe if that sentence makes sense.. hella sleep deprived. )

rushing is not like sucking up. its getting to know the people and seeing if you see yourself having a close sister-like relationship with them. you rush because you shouldnt randomly join a group without knowing anything about it or the people involved.
ok and "tasks" are set up by the sisters so you learn the traditions, history and the oaths of the sorority. granted they might have strict rules on how u perform these tasks, but anything you do, you do as a group with your pledge sisters together.
and its not that your out of the group if u get penalties/demerits, it jus mean u get sum sort of...punishment (yes i know that sounds bad ). once you start pledging, the only person that can stop you, is yourself if you quit. you DONT get kicked out. altho its called pledging for a reason, so its extremely time consuming. but really... you see girls wearing their letters all around campus, hecka proud of their letters. would you be as proud of your letters if they were jus handed to you? cuz when you get your letters, its jus like "I EARNED THAT B**CH." its jus sumthing you werk really hard for, so you really appreciate it when you get it. so its really up to you if u think a sorority is worth pledging to.
and you say that it doesnt sound liek genuine friendship - well thats cuz u develop a bond between your pledge sisters during the pledge process. you go through s**t together, and stay up mad late pledging together, and its just comforting to noe that these girls were with you, going through the same crap together.

so.. iono man, if u think its like a cult or not sumthing u like, thats all you. but jus noe that in order to become a sister, you have to werk hard for it.

[liliuokalani]

Ok - that...sounds....SCARY!!!! I don't like that - sounds like a cult and rushing sounds like sucking up. PLEDGE? Lol - if it's the type of pledging like the 3 brothers in Romance of the Three Kingdoms (whateva the English translation was - Chinese history - legend - bleh) where they generally like them and wanna be incredibly good and loyal friends to eachtoehr, then ok....that's ok....but ....DO TASKS? Get point? Penalties? Sounds like a popularity contest - hardly sound like a genuine friendship - ok, maybe u DO develop that after pledging but before that? I don't think so..........sounds like peer pressure can go under enormous play here - do tasks, do them well - no - outta the group - that's not friendship to me - not in my definition. *shiver*

No offence to ppl who like this but this just ain't my cup of tea. *shudder yet again*

a lot of my friends LOVE it
so I'm thinking it's not like "death penalty"

[MikiRei]

They crazy in america ...*runs*

Yes indeedy.....nothing like this in Australia....

rushing is not like sucking up. its getting to know the people and seeing if you see yourself having a close sister-like relationship with them. you rush because you shouldnt randomly join a group without knowing anything about it or the people involved.
ok and "tasks" are set up by the sisters so you learn the traditions, history and the oaths of the sorority. granted they might have strict rules on how u perform these tasks, but anything you do, you do as a group with your pledge sisters together.
and its not that your out of the group if u get penalties/demerits, it jus mean u get sum sort of...punishment (yes i know that sounds bad sleep.gif). once you start pledging, the only person that can stop you, is yourself if you quit. you DONT get kicked out. altho its called pledging for a reason, so its extremely time consuming. but really... you see girls wearing them all around campus, hecka proud of their letters. would you be as proud of your letters if they were jus haded to you? cuz when you get your letters, its jus like "i EARNED THAT B**CH." its jus sumthing you werk really hard for, so you really appreciate it when you get it. so its really up to you if u think a sorority is worth pledging to.
and you say that it doesnt sound liek genuine friendship - well thats cuz u develop a bond between your pledge sisters during the pledge process. you go through s**t together, and stay up mad late pledging together, and its just comforting to noe that these girls were with you, going through the same crap together.

so.. iono man, if u think its like a cult or not sumthing u like, thats all you. but jus noe that in order to become a sister, you have to werk hard for it.

And.......noone works hard for a friendship?? The thing I probably don't like about this is probably the formality of it all. I'm more go-with-the-flow. If you click with someone, you click with someone. Many friendships develop into strong bonds, not unlike sisterly relationships, only difference is, it's developed NATURALLY - through years and years of supporting eachother. Now, the pledge seem to ENFORCE some sorta complication so that people DO have a chance to somehow bond. I guess that turns me off b/c the lack of "natural development". I say the pledge is "forceful" b/c that seems to be a REASON for you to bond with ur "sisters" whereas, developing a bond w/o a pledge seem more genuine 'cause that mean, ur friend stayed friends with you and you guys supported eachother for no reason but for the fact they like you as a friend (and vice versa).

Anywayz, I think that's enuff rambling from me. People can do what people like to do.

[AznBetty]

Yes indeedy.....nothing like this in Australia....
And.......noone works hard for a friendship?? The thing I probably don't like about this is probably the formality of it all. I'm more go-with-the-flow. If you click with someone, you click with someone. Many friendships develop into strong bonds, not unlike sisterly relationships, only difference is, it's developed NATURALLY - through years and years of supporting eachother. Now, the pledge seem to ENFORCE some sorta complication so that people DO have a chance to somehow bond. I guess that turns me off b/c the lack of "natural development". I say the pledge is "forceful" b/c that seems to be a REASON for you to bond with ur "sisters" whereas, developing a bond w/o a pledge seem more genuine 'cause that mean, ur friend stayed friends with you and you guys supported eachother for no reason but for the fact they like you as a friend (and vice versa).

Anywayz, I think that's enuff rambling from me. People can do what people like to do.

well isnt pledging the whole point? wuts the point in being a sister, if u jus wanna be friends. and i dont really think this is forced upon cuz... arent u the one who chose to pledge? its not supposed to be natural development, otherwise it would jus be random friends you see on campus. though you may say its forceful, its you whos forcing yourself, cuz u can quit anytime.

whereas, developing a bond w/o a pledge seem more genuine 'cause that mean, ur friend stayed friends with you and you guys supported eachother for no reason but for the fact they like you as a friend

...but no ones telling you to pledge. how you wanna live your college life is up to you. a bond w/o a pledge might seem more genuine, but that might be you and one friend. the bond you share with your pledge sisters, you share as a whole. but what ur saying is just... different. you pledge to be a sister, not a friend.

i mean, then isnt the relationship between me and my blood related sister forced upon too? i really dont like her most of the time, but thats not the point because if she were an annoying friend, i could jus throw her away. instead im stuck with her for life. isnt that also the same as how you say, forcing a bond?
man i feel like im being really redundant...

[LoLamae]

how do you find out which sorority is for you? do you "shop" around? do they have a fair or something? (haha... like a career fair)

[damon2000]

^ that's what rush week is for.. usually the first one or two weeks of the semester or quarter. all frats/sororities have events usually throughout the entire week so you can just come out and see what they're about. you can check out as many as you want during this time.

[MikiRei]

aie....I'll just stick with the conventioanl "Clubs"

its you whos forcing yourself, cuz u can quit anytime.

mean, then isnt the relationship between me and my blood related sister forced upon too? i really dont like her most of the time, but thats not the point because if she were an annoying friend, i could jus throw her away. instead im stuck with her for life. isnt that also the same as how you say, forcing a bond?

Ur kinda contradicting urself with the above two comments. "You can quit anytime" and being stuck with ur natural sister for life - so, in a way, ur saying u can walk away from these pledge sisters anytime which boils down to the point they're not true sisters afterall - so ur not "stuck for life" with them like u r with ur natural sisters and can still walk away from it just as you would with any friendship. So in a way, these pledge sisters r still just "friends" - but "best friends" in a sense if u place it into the context of "friends" - many friends bond so well that they, themselves, make some sorta agreement amongst themselves but that's it - I guess the point I'm getting at is I don't like the whole "FORMALITY" of it - the fact friendship can be made into some sorta commercial organisation - yes, it IS like a commercial organisation 'cause u guys do promotion for it to invite more members. In other words, it's not unlike conventional clubs only, clubs usually don't expect u to commit urself fully (they hope u will) while fraternities/sororities add this extra PLEDGE thing - no seriously, u say u can walk away but can you? Moral value digs in deep. One who decides to take a pledge usually find it hard to walk away, even when they DO regret it in the end. Anyway, the extra PLEDGE thing is like a verbal, communion CONTRACT u do to KEEP ur members. I think the key point I'm making is they make it sound so beautiful and lovely, yet not completely. There is still just some little WRONG thing in it that you can't exactly finger jutting out which is why the whole idea makes me feel uneasy.

Bleh! Ok - enuff of my criticism. If you love it, you love it. I guess I'm so skeptical 'cause I don't like the sense of feeling "constrained" - and yes, making a pledge is feeling constrained - I dun see why I should take a pledge just to stay loyal, bonding friends with someone and vice versa. You said earlier that friends r just mates u c around uni and it's nothing special but don't u think it's even MORE special that through all these random ppl u meet in uni, just one or two of these happen to become so close u might as well call them siblings? And all through nothing but long yrs of understanding eachother and being patient with eachother? And not through any sorta agreement? Anywayz, that's just my view. I'll stop now.

[AznBetty]

aie....I'll just stick with the conventioanl "Clubs"
Ur kinda contradicting urself with the above two comments. "You can quit anytime" and being stuck with ur natural sister for life - so, in a way, ur saying u can walk away from these pledge sisters anytime which boils down to the point they're not true sisters afterall - so ur not "stuck for life" with them like u r with ur natural sisters and can still walk away from it just as you would with any friendship. So in a way, these pledge sisters r still just "friends" - but "best friends" in a sense if u place it into the context of "friends" - many friends bond so well that they, themselves, make some sorta agreement amongst themselves but that's it - I guess the point I'm getting at is I don't like the whole "FORMALITY" of it - the fact friendship can be made into some sorta commercial organisation - yes, it IS like a commercial organisation 'cause u guys do promotion for it to invite more members. In other words, it's not unlike conventional clubs only, clubs usually don't expect u to commit urself fully (they hope u will) while fraternities/sororities add this extra PLEDGE thing - no seriously, u say u can walk away but can you? Moral value digs in deep. One who decides to take a pledge usually find it hard to walk away, even when they DO regret it in the end. Anyway, the extra PLEDGE thing is like a verbal, communion CONTRACT u do to KEEP ur members. I think the key point I'm making is they make it sound so beautiful and lovely, yet not completely. There is still just some little WRONG thing in it that you can't exactly finger jutting out which is why the whole idea makes me feel uneasy.

Bleh! Ok - enuff of my criticism. If you love it, you love it. I guess I'm so skeptical 'cause I don't like the sense of feeling "constrained" - and yes, making a pledge is feeling constrained - I dun see why I should take a pledge just to stay loyal, bonding friends with someone and vice versa. You said earlier that friends r just mates u c around uni and it's nothing special but don't u think it's even MORE special that through all these random ppl u meet in uni, just one or two of these happen to become so close u might as well call them siblings? And all through nothing but long yrs of understanding eachother and being patient with eachother? And not through any sorta agreement? Anywayz, that's just my view. I'll stop now.

dude... ur confuzzling me..
lolz, wutever i give up saying anything.
and i dont "love" it. im not even in it. its too much crap to do while pledging when i have such a full couresload; not that i havent considered it tho.

*and no i dont think im contradicting myself cause i think you can walk away from the pledging process but not blood sister. when you walk away from pledging, you stop becoming a pledge sister and jus become..a friend.
**and no sister ive met has ever regreted it. they totally love it.

[8318]

my suitemates are pledging right now,
they argue and fight everyday!
a good thing i've seen from them was they were really lazy last semester but now they're punctual..the pledging has been keeping them up on their toes.
and it's been so quiet now that they're out everynight and away on the weekends.
finally..there is peace^_^

[ibabyxgardien]

i wanted to join a sorority in high school.

freshman year i was hesitant about joining b/c of the stories i've heard. hazing and how it takes up wayy too much time that your GPA would drop.

recently i've been invited into ALPHA DELTA PI.

and the girls are WONDERFUL!!!

i've never been happier. i honestly think that it depends on which sorority you want to join. i wouldn't really recommend local sororites b/c their hazing is a whole lot worse if they even have hazing in your school. but yea~~

[yodisbsteve]

honestly i think sororities/frats are wack. its like paying for your friends. why do you have to make semester dues to hang out w/ ppl and party? and if you werent in the frat/sorority those same ppl probably wouldnt give a crap about you.

but for all you ppl in sororities an frats do your thing. I jus dont like paying to hang out with people.

[suehyun]

Ok - that...sounds....SCARY!!!! I don't like that - sounds like a cult and rushing sounds like sucking up. PLEDGE? Lol - if it's the type of pledging like the 3 brothers in Romance of the Three Kingdoms (whateva the English translation was - Chinese history - legend - bleh) where they generally like them and wanna be incredibly good and loyal friends to eachtoehr, then ok....that's ok....but ....DO TASKS? Get point? Penalties? Sounds like a popularity contest - hardly sound like a genuine friendship - ok, maybe u DO develop that after pledging but before that? I don't think so..........sounds like peer pressure can go under enormous play here - do tasks, do them well - no - outta the group - that's not friendship to me - not in my definition. *shiver*

No offence to ppl who like this but this just ain't my cup of tea. *shudder yet again*

popularity contest? please. that's hardly what it is.

honestly i think sororities/frats are wack. its like paying for your friends. why do you have to make semester dues to hang out w/ ppl and party? and if you werent in the frat/sorority those same ppl probably wouldnt give a crap about you.

but for all you ppl in sororities an frats do your thing. I jus dont like paying to hang out with people.

you dont pay to hang out with people. god damn. why do people with absolutely no knowledge of what frats and sororities stand for mouth of so damn much? most of the money goes to the philanthropy of the organization NOT to buy friends. different greek organizations stand for different things but they all have one thing in common, community service and philanthropy. the rest of the money goes to rush events or to hold fundraisers for our freaken philanthropy.

by pledging, the pledges are showing their dedication to what the sorority stands for and it shows us that they're not just there to party but they're actually going to work their ass off to get to know the history of the sorority & help the organization move forward once they cross. Usually pledges that drop are the ones that realize that sororities and frats are not all about partying and having fun and the dropped pledges just dont want to put all the work into it.

do your research or shut your mouth.

[allaayy]

popularity contest? please. that's hardly what it is.
you dont pay to hang out with people. god damn. why do people with absolutely no knowledge of what frats and sororities stand for mouth of so damn much? most of the money goes to the philanthropy of the organization NOT to buy friends. different greek organizations stand for different things but they all have one thing in common, community service and philanthropy. the rest of the money goes to rush events or to hold fundraisers for our freaken philanthropy.

by pledging, the pledges are showing their dedication to what the sorority stands for and it shows us that they're not just there to party but they're actually going to work their ass off to get to know the history of the sorority & help the organization move forward once they cross. Usually pledges that drop are the ones that realize that sororities and frats are not all about partying and having fun and the dropped pledges just dont want to put all the work into it.

do your research or shut your mouth.

couldnt have said it any better.
aKDPhi!!!!!!!!!!