[cin203]

I'm going into my junior year and I finally got a single! I never really had a horrible roommate experience, except my freshmen year. But I think we just both had different living habits. I'm a neat freak and she's the opposite. I never understand those questionaire things that college have us fill out to match us up with a roommate, cuz most of people are paired up with someone totally opposite of them..eh -___- Second year, my sorority sisters and I requested each other as roommates and it was the best roommates experience ever! I'm gonna miss rooming with them, but I'm used to have a room by myself haha. Btw reading this thread entertains me at work =P

[theedqueen]

My last roommate was my bestfriend, but some things bothered me about her. The biggest thing was how she recently had to move out because her parents are scraping for money so she had to move home in order to save money. What bothered me is that it never felt like she was doing much to help me out. While my family has enough money to pay for me to have an apartment, she was my roommate and since she was the one who had to move out she should've taken more responsibility to find a replacement or find me a cheaper place to live. I was doing a lot of stuff to try to help her out like posting notices on campus, posting on facebook, asking ALL of my friends, going on the university online listing and e-mailing a LOT of people to find someone to taker over the lease/be my roommate/etc. I think she asked a couple of friends, but I had to ask her to post something on facebook, but it was that one time and i don't think she ever reposted again or did anything aggressive. I literally scoured the neighborhood looking for a new apartment for myself, I spent a day when I should've been studying or relaxing in order to do that, but she never did any of that for me. Thankfully, my manager found some people to take over the lease and I found a new place to live. However, if that didn't happen I would've been facing full rent on my own and my roommate wanted her deposit back. My mom told me that if she couldn't help split the rent that I shouldn't be giving her deposit back. It was so hard trying to say no to my mom because she's right, my roommate did sign a contract to split the costs and I wouldn't have been in this bind if it weren't for her. On the other hand she is my best friend and I know the stuff she's been going through and I know her family has practically 0 money. I guess at the end of the day I don't mind taking up a little extra cost for a friend, I just wish she'd do much more to help me out of it. She treats it as if finding a new roommate/apartment for me is my responsibility.

[joonage]

This thread is quite interesting. I wonder what freshman year holds for me. hahaha

Man, I thought I had a great roommate lined up though. Met him at my orientation. He's on a baseball scholarship and pretty much has the same interests as me. But nope. Baseball players room with other players. So yeah ... I think we're still clustermates though. Hahaha ... Lets just hope I don't get a crappy roommate now .... xD

[binyboo_02]

well i just got my roommate cause i'm '13 so i haven't met her yet but...
not only is she Chinese but she's from the same hometown as me in China!
and i'm not from a big city like Beijing, Shanghai or anything like that
so it's quite a coincidence haha
we've been talking on facebook and we seem like we would get along very well!
but i guess i'll have to do an update once i move in ^.^

[doctorlee]

I was in a triple with 2 friends because they asked me to room with them.
The next semester they moved out together to another room.
Some French guy moved into my room.
He left.
Another friend came into my room.

I guess I'm a bad roommate.

[chaudalyn23]

I don't have a roommate any more. But i've had a couple. Here's what happen:

Roomate 1 {LC}: We're both scorpios, had a base agreement. She had her area and I had mine and then there was the common rooms. The only problem was for newly acquire BF. That and also we were both exotic dancers at the time. But she was always lazy and late and I wanted to be there at least an hour to properly get ready. When I told her BF that he couldn't crash over here she left with him.

Roommate 1, second round.: She ditched me at a club that was 1 hour driving time away from my son and apartment. She didn't have a key to the place since she wasn't on the lease. I ingored her {leaving her without a place to sleep} for two days. When we finally decide to talk to each other, she came in, got her stuff and left.

Roommate 2 {michaela}: She used to live at a group home I worked at. But now she's staying with me. I told her that since she wasn't supposed to be there do not communicate with the neighbors {my neighbors are hypocritical snitches}, not only did she do that, but had them on her side when I had to kick her out for not holding up her end of our agreement.

Roommate 3 {Zora}: Let's just say this: The first time I gave him a choice, keep his word or leave. He left. The second time {in my current apartment} As soon as I got him on the lease, he decided that he was too good for my apartment and bailed, I nearly lost my aparment.

I will not get another roommate any time soon.

[SUperLong]

omfg...so this year i got an internship in colorado and its my first time living away from home.
so this other kid got the internship also and so we decided to live together to save money.
we both go to the same school btw. anyways, many people have told me how weird he is
and that i will have a "great" time living with him. Of course i knew he was weird because i've
seen him around, but i did not know how bad it was...omfg...getting pissed...

so at first i tried to be nice and talked to him about games and anime because i knew he liked
those things and of course i do too. but holy crap he talks about all those things all day to me
and im like omfg...do you really need to make comparisons of real world to anime. sometimes
he talks to me about games and ask me questions if i know what hes talking about and i tell him no.
sometimes he would stop, but mostly which is about 90% of the time, he would blabber on
telling me all the things that i have to know. ok i mean, hes a good guy, he likes to talk but jesus christ
man...please don't talk to me about useless mini cooper all the time. sometimes i just put on my headphones
and he would still be talking and i would just nod my head agreeing w/ w/e he says. he would go on
for about 5 minutes talking and i would just ignore him. Another thing is that this guy is an effing slob.
all he eats is frozen food, pizza, and chinese food. he doesn't shower and 't brush
his teeth in the morning. so effing gross. by noon his head ans all greasy and nasty looking.
also when he eats he likes to walk around without a plate. mini cooper just falls everywhere on the carpet
and he has no problem with that. like seriously, how does that not bother you...mini cooper im so pissed now
i have to stop, i can probably go on for another 10 minutes....

[cocainerror]

I'll be rooming with one of my friends I'm buddies in high school which I've heard can turn out bad while i've heard it'll turn out okay. Either way we'll work on it together. I'm not liking what I'm reading though though most of those experiences are coming from people who are rooming with people they don't know.

[xthefirst]

i guess i've had my fair share of bad experiences with roommates as well, but it's been 50% good 50% bad.

first year:
I had a roommate for like 2 weeks.
She was never in the apartment.
I think she was really homophobic (we lived on the "Rainbow Floor" aka LGBT floor, even though both of us were straight females...)
We never really talked.
She partied a lot.
I didn't.

Then the next roommate to move in...I <3 her!!
We had so many things in common...she love Dramas...and I did too...
(although, i guess it could be bad too...since it created a lot of procrastination. lol)
the only gripe I had with her was the fact that she kept odd hours...
she slept at like 4 or 5 in the morning.
i like to sleep at 12 or 1 at the latest.
but i quickly adjusted to it...(i'm a pretty sound sleeper...so lights and noise don't really bother me. plus, she was pretty considerate when it came to noise.)

Then came 2nd year:
At first, it was nice.
This roommate was completely new.
I slept in the living room and she had the bedroom (we shared a one-bedroom)
she started off normal and quiet.
but...as I started to get to know her...she became pretty annoying.
she was allergic to everything...and she told me that she felt the apartment was dirty and that contributed to her allergies...
so being a considerate roommate, I cleaned the entire apartment thoroughly (it was pretty freaking clean)
but that didn't help.
she never cleaned the bathroom, despite her allergies...and it was always up to me to clean the bathroom and the kitchen.
on top of that...
she would use my perfume...and take things without asking.
i'm not a stingy person.
if you ask...i'll most likely say ok.
but just the arrogance to take things without asking me...makes me mad.
but the worst part was the fact that she was pre-med.
she drove me ABSOLUTELY CRAZY during application season (which was basically the whole year I lived with her).
EVERYDAY, she'd ask me if I thought she would get into med school (HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO KNOW??? I'm a psych/International relations major...i have no plans on going to med school.)
EVERYDAY, she would talk about med school and about how she would like to be a doctor.
EVERYDAY, she would go through these mood swings of optimism and depression.
by the end of that year...i was about to go crazy.
she didn't get into med school in the end...but there was no way i was going to continue living with her...

which brings me to my current roommate...
who is probably one of the sweetest people i've ever met.
very nice, very humble, and very studious.
on top of that has a pretty awesome sense of humor...lol (she's such a geek!!)
the only gripe i have with her (and i keep tell her this) is for her to say sorry less.
she's got a huge guilt complex...lol.
but we get along pretty great!!

i feel like the key to having a good relationship with your roommate is 50% direct communication (none of that passive aggressive stuff) and 40% tolerance of other people's behavior (know that not everyone comes from the same background...be tolerant) and 10% luck.

also...
my advice in terms of roommates is...
DON'T ROOM WITH PRE-MED PEOPLE (lol. sorry pre-med kids) because they tend to be pretty stressful to live with...in my experience.

>< not all pre-med kids are like that... most of the ones i know are really nice and sweet. like me


some of you have complained about your roommates acting like total princesses or something. i think my parents also treated me like that, only because i was the youngest child. :/ i hope i won't be like that... i will learn from your stories and be a good roommate!

[la folie]

Wouldn't it be lonely? Empty room....

I'm going to be a senior in HS; but these roommate stories are sure scary !

It's not like the room is spacious enough to be described as "empty". Do you get lonely in your own room?
I know I rarely ever get lonely.

I have a single room.

[Nikopol]

It's summer holiday here now, so I'm not really at my "student address" a lot... But I have 7 housemates.
We live in something like a long hallway, we don't have a living room. We share 2 kitchens, 3 toilets and 3 showers with 8 people (in total).
Everyone has their own bedroom, but bedrooms are pretty much areas to hang out as well. Kinda sucks. I need a living room.

Oki, so housemates.

1. Some 23 year old or something dude. Don't see him a lot, but when I do I talk to him a little. Nice dude. But... Why would you walk around a shared hallway naked/in your underwear?! I don't want to see that! T_T Well, he's not jiggly jiggly fat, so it's ok I guess. Student archeology (I think), currently writing his final paper (I'm dutch, I forgot the english word?! T_T). All around nice guy. Too bad he's leaving soon. Migh move into his room (it's bigger than mine!)

2. A girl who moved in at the same time as me. Is now a 2nd year Korean major. Supercool! Real friendly as well. We sometimes eat together with another housemate, and always in her room, because it's bigger than mine, and cleaner than the other person's room! xD I'm really happy that she is living next to me, because she is really quiet usually (came home drunk at 4AM twice, I think? And sometimes loud music), and just overall nice person. Yay.

3. My room! I'm an awesome person. [/arrogant].

4. Some new girl... I don't like her. She's weird and strange and just pretty anti-social. Doesn't really fit in in the rest of the hallway. She locks her door when she is inside the room?! Does she really not trust us at all?! T_T She also keeps ignoring me and forgetting my face. She introduced herself to my 3 times so far. I live next to you! Pay attention! And she leaves her vacuum cleaner in the MIDDLE OF THE HALLWAY. I fell over it twice so far, and many times I almost fell. Real annoying. She is a 3rd year Dutch major, I think? We never talk, because she never comes out of her room! T_T

5. Another guy! He's cool. He's pretty much an avid PC gamer. Always playing WoW or something. But he's really nice~ Loaned me some aftersun when I got sunburnt etc. But he's almost done with his final paper, so he's leaving soon too. I just hope another dude moves in in his place, otherwise we have too many girls! That's no fun xD He's also probably one of the cleanest people in our hallway, we have hired housekeeps coming by twice a week (included in rent), but he always cleans his own shower and toilet anyway. Housekeeps make an even worse mess, usually.

6. Umm. I don't really know a lot about this person, but she is disliked by pretty much everyone in the hallway. Seriously, is she trying to kill us or something?! Our kitchens work with gas stoves, but she just leaves the gas open! The whole hallway smelled like it. Superdangerous as well, because some people in our hallway smoke?! Whoa! Also, this might not be a valid reason, but everything she does/wears/is... Starts to STINK enourmously. I'm sorry, but I gag everytime I walk past her room, and when she is cooking food, my door gets closed, even though our rooms are far apart T_T She is also the only one in the hallway NOT doing an university level course, she barely speaks Dutch (she is from Africa) so communicating with her is kind of hard.

7. Haha. This dude. Is a flaming homosexual. This isn't a diss, because I think he'd describe himself the same way. He really is the King of Gay. He usually has a bit of a mean streak, but a funny mean, not a "I hate you and you should die" mean. But he's SO SWEET when you want a serious talk. Really. He hasn't been around a lot, because he got kicked off of the uni in january (didn't have enough points to continue), but he's coming back next year.

8. Last room! In this room the person who gave me my room lives. She is sweet, but kind of a drama queen hehe. Also, kind of a one track mind. Most of her time goes to yaoi and stuff... She is going to be a 3rd year Japanese major next year. But we watch a lot of the same shows (actually, I started watching them because of her...), so it's always fun when a new episode comes out! I hang out with her most of all my housemates.

We have a pretty cool house. Almost everyone is pretty social, and everyone is friendly with eachother. But I kinda wanna move into a bigger room... Mine is the smallest of the 8! T_T

[asiancutie]

I have two room mates. I didn't get to pick them either. I got stuck with 2 girls that are a year younger than me. They put us together by what year we are in college. I feel as though my room mates don't want to even try and get to know me. my room mate Brittany posted on her facebook that she would hopefully be moving in on Sunday and Leslie was happy and said she would be there to help if Brittany did choose to move in on Sunday. But when I told Leslie that I was moving in Sunday she told me that she probably wouldn't be there. I guess I'm going to be left out.

[falling_moon]

I live with two of my room mates, I was not able to choose who I wanted to live with. The first years of dorm life was awful because they never took the trash out and left their make-up materials all over the sink counter. Its so hard trying to keep our room clean when these girls are constantly leaving their clothes on the floor and leaving their trash all over the place.. I may be a clean freak but leaving with these two room mates drove me crazy and my second year of college I moved out to an apartment with my other friends.

[CorrectionYourWrongImRight]

im so glad im renting a whole room to myself. own bathroom. the only thing shared is the kitchen. but meh..

[Aozora122]

I can't remember if I wrote about my current roommates in this thread before.

I've been really hating one of my roommates lately and can't wait until we move out in a month. I'll be referring to my roommates as roommate A and roommate B. This may be kind of long.

Now me and roommate A used to have a pretty good relationship. We could talk about things openly and have a pretty good time together. We never had an issues with each other and everything seemed fine. We used to complain about roommate B a lot since she was kind of messy and a bit loud. Roommate B was usually at her boyfriend's place so it was usually just me and roommate A. Roommate A was quiet, studious, and always went to bed at 10 PM. A and B shared a room and bathroom while I had my own room and bathroom. Life at our apartment was good, for a while at least.

Things started to change around spring quarter. Roommate A began hanging out with her friends a lot more while roommate B was absent as always. Having roommate A's friends over was a little annoying but I didn't mind a whole lot. However, one weekend, I came back to my apartment to find that a bunch of people that I didn't know were in my apartment and my roommates were no where to be found. These strangers turned out to be A's friends who had stayed over and partied over the weekend. Annoyed that A had left her friends in our apartment while she went out, I was even more shocked and disgusted to find that one of her friends had puked all over my toilet. Puke had dried all over my toilet, on the wall, and had pooled at the base of the toilet. Whoever did it, tried to clean it up, using an entire roll of toilet paper to do so but in their drunken state had done a pretty awful job. No one bothered to tell me about this even though they were still in the living room, literally 20 feet away. Pissed as I was, I just decided to clean it up since I had a midterm the next day that I still needed to study for. When I confronted A about the situation, she was oblivious to the fact that her friend had puked all over my bathroom. A began to annoy me more and more as she never put away her dishes when, her friends would always use my cups and dishes, and would always leave the apartment a mess. I wrote a letter to A about how I felt and A got offended and pissed. Our relationship has never been the same.

Fast-forward to summer session and it's just me and B since A left to go to Hong Kong. What A didn't tell me was that she had gotten two kittens that were now living in her room, completely ignoring the fact that I am allergic to cats. A asked B to watch the cats while she was away. B didn't seem to mind until the cats started scratching and messing up all her stuff and peeing on the carpet. Other than the cats, I was glad that A was away but I knew she was coming back for the next summer session.

It's still the first week of summer session II and living with A has been hell. Her boyfriend now pretty much lives in our apartment and A even gave him a key without consenting neither me nor B. A has friends over pretty much everyday and they are very disrespectful and discourteous. A and her friends turn up the volume on the TV ridiculously loud, turn on the AC when it's not even hot, play mahjong past midnight, and seem to disregard the fact that other people live in this apartment. B came back one morning to find that A's friends had stayed over and thrown all their crap on B's bed. They had taken a mattress that B was going to throw away, which was in the living room, and brought it into her room and slept on it without even asking B for her permission. A's friends also spilled juice on the carpet, leaving a large pink stain in the middle of the living room and didn't even bother to mention it to anyone. A's friends also decided to cough up a disgusting loogie into my sink and didn't even bother to wash it down. A always cooks for her friends and we now take out the trash every other day because they have so much garbage. They don't even bother to take it out even though the dumpster is literally 10 seconds away from our apartment. Right now, more of A's friends are over and I hope that either leave and shut up since I have work tomorrow morning.

I've had enough of A's antics and all her crap. She and her friends are rude and disrespectful to my things and the fact that me and B also live our apartment. B is also sick of A and how she just lets her friends do as the please while they mess up our apartment and me and B have to deal with it. Just less than 4 weeks now and I will be out of this hellhole

[Ca_Kristine_4ever]

Okay...these things sound pretty ugly...<__>
I hope my dormmate isn't this bad ....*crossing my fingers*...

[heavenztears]

^Same here. I'm going to move into an appartment with three other girls. My room is the smallest of them all, but at least I'm not sharing it with anyone else since in The Netherlands they don't do that much. They seem nice, but you never really get to know someone until you actually live with them. So I'm quite scared to be honest

The best thing is that it's an appartment; sharing a brand new kitchen and bathroom, so I hope we can keep it clean haha

[Cao]

My roommate was my cousin. I don't care if he reads this or being secretive, cause everything about this username is obvious about me lol. Anyways. I was probably the bad roommate, often coming back late (like 3 am), having ppl over past 12 am (not when he's sleeping though). I came back a lot of the time from parties and probably accidentally made some noise. I will miss him being my roommate because we never agreed to move in with each other next quarter. His social life is a bit different from mine and he's a different type of person so yea. I'm the, yea you know. He plays a lot of games and doesn't party and is a really good kid. We were both well respected by everyone in the dorm though, and had a lot of mutual friends nonetheless.

[MangoStar]

I haven't met my roommate yet. Hopefully, she' isn't ghetto, rude and just plain horrible.
If she is, I'm changing roommates or moving out.

[Malice_Kaiser]

I haven't met my roommate in person yet, but I'm scared.

Let's put it into perspective.
I am quiet, shy, I have my morals and I don't party. I'm not a social butterfly. I consider myself generally friendly and I'm non confrontational in person so I'm easy to get along with. I just kinda keep to myself.

My assigned room mate friended me on Facebook and told me she likes to party. From her pictures she looked stereotypical college party girl, with blonde hair and orange tanned skin. I didn't want to judge by pictures because I don't know the girl, and just because she parties doesn't mean she's a bad person. But I got nosy and read her past wall posts, and apparently she was arrested for something, and had to spend three nights in jail and do community service. And before that (separate instance entirely) she apparently lost her license.

I don't know what to do. I have a feeling we're going to clash on so many levels. I'm nervous enough about college, extremely anxious about leaving home, and this isn't the type of news I wanted to hear. This is on top of learning that my dorm is one of the biggest (if not THE biggest) party dorm on campus at one of the biggest party schools in the country.


Anyone have any advice?

Am I jumping the gun and getting upset too early...? Or do I have a right to be nervous? I'm just afraid of not getting sleep because of loud partiers or just generally hating everyone around me because of obnoxiousness and whathave you... I don't care if people party, I just don't want to live around it...


I'm also posting this in the advice for first years section, sorry for the double post...