[sexydbsk]

I hate her , my roommate, well i don't think i am good though but i just freaking don't like her!
She thought she is the best or something, i don't know ! I might be wrong . i thought roommates can be really close and we can chit chat all night or every night before sleep! OR we can talk about everything!! But i am wrong!!! She is my classmate last time but we seldom chat , i thought she is a nice girl but i am totally wrong!! We went to the same college , thought of staying together, but i honestly felt darn sad and angry staying with her .... is like i am only staying with myself but i get the worst things ever!!

She only talk to her best friend which was my house mate too, i feel weird sitting in the middle looking at them talking, i try to make a topic to chat but no one ever wants to answer me or i'll join their conversation but i still don't get reply by them. It's freaking sigh and sad to know this but i don't want to get hurt or anything by this . I just go inside the room and chill myself!! I think everyone will thinks it's weird, because my roommate never talk to me even we stayed in a room for more than half a year!! Not even a day we talk, i really tried to talk her , but she just ignore me, and the worst thing is well, since she don't FEEL like talking to me, so i don't know anything about her. Is not like a even a friend..! And yeah, she'll talk to me if something get spoiled or anything in the house!!

We all , me and my others roommates knows she have a lot of friend out there because she talk on the phone like non-stop!! And we are not even part of her friend! Or perhaps only me? Gosh! And i don't understand why the hell every morning when she got up , she definitely bang the door and grab her shampoos stuff so angrily , wtf!! She'll open the door and get make up , make all the SOUND!!! I always got up earlier because of her!! BUT I never disturb her if i am the one who wakes up first!

Though i snored sometimes, the next days , she'll complained about me or she'll write things like '''i can't get enough of sleep because of the snore or anything''' in the facebook . And hey , you snore too!! But i never complain!!!

It's not fairrrr.. i am going to move out, i am sure she's gonna be happy about it!

Sorry i didn't mean anything but my feeling... i am disappointed...

[~Tropical.Mists]

is it really THAT bad to room with a high school friend?

i'm a senior (in high school) right now and i'm deciding whether or not i want to dorm with my best friend. we're kinda cautious of living with people we've never met before. (and our parents wouldn't really let us dorm if we weren't dorming together)

we're both extremely open-minded to new things & pretty outgoing (i guess? more her though)
so even if we don't dorm together, i dont think we'd have that much of a problem rooming with other people.

i've known her for at least 7-8 years now? (went to middle & high school with her)
so i know her pretty well. i can also put up with A LOT of her stuff. :] (good & bad -.- its tiring, but i'm used to it)
i sometimes feel that if i'm NOT around her, she'll go crazy + do crazy stuff. i'm kinda like her 'conscience'

many people tell me that you have to actually live with someone to know what that person is like. but if i already know what my best friend is like, its a little better in college right?
hahahahaa i sound so insecure LOL.

reading almost EVERY SINGLE PAGE in this thread gave me a sense that dorming is scary, but you can learn a lot from it.
but the whole 'don't room with a high school friend' was bothering me. :x
i don't want to ruin our relationship if dorming together is going to create that.

for all those who DID room with your friend from high school, was it truly that bad? o.O

My answer in a nutshell is no. It's not that bad, in fact I have no problems at all living with my best friend =) and I MUCH rather live with someone I know rather than a stranger.

Here's my story if you wanna read the details ^^''
I've known my best friend for 10 years now =O we've been through ups and downs and like you and your best friend, we thought we've been through EVERYTHING imaginable as friends. Of course, we're both different in our own ways, but now that we're in our third year of university, we've seriously learned each others' strengths and weaknesses.
We both ended up getting into the same university and it was pretty much decided that we would obviously live together even without talking about it =P ... after we got our residence decided, we were slotted into a double room (dorm style where like, you and your roommate basically share a large room) even though we wanted an apartment style >_< oh wells!

Anyways! to fast forward a bit, we went through orientation together, classes together, eating together... we were basically stuck at the hip o_O To me, I thought that since I already have such a good group of friends (there were like 30 of us in high school), I didn't feel a great need to make new friends in university and I think my bff felt the same way because by sticking together so much, we seriously didn't put a lot or ANY effort into making new friends >_>

As for the actual LIVING together, I agree that you really don't know your best friend until you've LIVED with them. It's a totally different world altogether when you finally get to know her LIVING style =P lol! I admit that I didn't notice how MESSY my bff was until we shared the same room haha and I didn't realized how OCD I was about messy areas X___X
It takes awhile to adjust and honestly speaking, if you put in the effort to get along and stay good friends then it shouldn't be a problem ^^''
I had small issues with my best friend... like sometimes she'd be very stressed and started ignoring me, or she'd be very cold towards me =X and I had no idea wtf was wrong >_> but I think that died as soon as midterms/finals were over and we went back to usual ^^

So all in all, my first year with my best friend wasn't bad at all =) it drew us closer in many ways and aside from the off times, we spent mostly every waking hour together. We'd even stay up talking all night together and then nap the whole afternoon away the next day LOL! =P

Now, we're in third year and we're still bffs =) We still live together =O we live in a townhouse together with 2 guy friends (one being my bff's bf) and I think what's best is that after being together for so long, you really learn what the other person likes and dislikes =) Well that's my experience... haha! it's pretty brief since I didn't go into too much details about our problems and solutions but I don't regret living with my best friend and in fact, we're better friends because of it! Everyone's different and you seriously won't know until you try XP

--xoxo.
TM

[Poop-Shoop-A-Loop]

to those with roomies who always steal your food and take without asking...

you should totally try this method:

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=320569

[Dollarcrust]

LONG STORY

ok well, when I heard I was getting an asian roommate I was honestly excited for the new year. so after getting the room assignments, I e-mail him askin if he wants to grab some food, and to get to know each other. So I finally meet him in the campus center. NEVER HAVE I BEEN SO BORED IN A CONVERSATION BEFORE. Usually I'd alwayus find something to talk about with anyone, but him, it was impossible. I felt like I was talking to myself or a wall, all of his replies were either REALLY short or yes/no. He told me he usually plays WoW and final fantasy, which I have no clue about. I tried asking him about any hobbies, what he usually does for fun around here, I even resorted to talk about WoW (which I have no friggin idea about).

So anyways, the semester starts. I enter my suite I find that I have 3 gay suitemmates (all of them have boyfriends), I don't have anything against it, but they get um, "loud" and can't really relate to them. I have another suitemmate and he's cool, but I usually just talk to him on the weekends. Then here comes my roommate.

He is the quietest person I encountered, I try talking to him, which fails. He's also the "whitest" asian I ever knew too. He only likes white girls, doesn't like asian music, movies, shows, food. When I ask if he wants chinese food, he looks at me weird and says "I actually prefer pizza". I also found out he never eats rice, which I found to be REALLY shocking. But yeah its really difficult to talk to my roommate (unless he's drunk, which is really funny). When I go out on weekends to parties I offer my roommate if he wants to tag along, surprising he does, but when we're there he just leans on a wall the whole night unless he gets drunk, in which he just falls all over the place.

We actually got into a fight walking back to campus after a party and split up, he went back to campus, I decide to just go to another party my friend was throwing. That night I come back at 3:30 AM in the morning I find him in the common room just playing WoW, then as I enter our room, he confronts me, in which I leave again to chill outside with any friends awake. Security tells us to stop loitering and smoking so I go back in the room at 5 AM, I find him there again playing WoW then confronting me again, where I just ignore him and pass out.

I'm actually trying to move out. My suite is full of the most independent people (we all never really talk to each other)

[mayy]

i love my roommates (: i initially wanted a double with one of my bestfriends from middle&high school but we got ut into a triple with a random girl from out of town haha. at first we were pretty feeling pretty iffy about it but two months into living with her, it's all right. and plus my bestfriend doesnt really live at the dorms...weird i know. she been staying at her boyfriend's and it's perfectly find with me and our other roommate. it actually feels like a double more than a triple hahahaha.

i actually think i'm the bad roommate here X: i'm the one who has someone sleep over on the weekends and talk on the phone at night. i asked my roommate for her permission and opinion on it and she said it was fine. but i know it bothers her cause it would bother me too... ehh x.x i'm trying to cut down on it though because i know it's rude and like i said, i wouldnt really like it if she did that to me.

but overall, i love my roommates! hahaha we're pretty different in what we want to study, styles, interests, etc but we can still talk to each other and i usually talk to my third roomie (not my bestfriend since she barely lives with us) a lot/before we sleep. ^.^

[jaesuuung]

My roommate steals my food T_T. He doesn't think I notice but I do...ugh.

[BloodPrincessShiroto]

I can't wait until my roommate and I switch roommates in December (during the break, she's going to have to move because i'm going to be gone during the whole break).

Anyways, because of her they had to set up some stupid rules. Anyways one of the rules is let your roommate know at least 2 hours before you have someone over out of respect well lately she's just been like oh my boyfriends over, so I told her this is the last time and if she doesn't let me know before i'm going to let the front desk know (because she agreed to the rules as well).

She plugs the toilet and leaves it for me to unplug and then when I confront her about it she says it wasn't her (it had to be her seeing that everytime it gets plugged it's when her boyfriends over and i'm in class, plus when I need to use the washroom I just go over to my fiances room and use his). This is also another one of the rules to unplug the toilet if it's plugged.

She also has this thing of using my stuff and moving them without asking (also in the rules) and when I confront her about it she just says because I wasn't here, she decided to go about and move it anyways (what's the point of the rules that she wanted in the first place if she isn't even going to follow them).

She also lets her food sit in the fridge and rot and then complains to me about the smell and how I need to do something about it, I clean my area of the fridge every week (before I go grocery shopping) and she hasn't cleaned her area since the day she moved in.

She never takes out the garbage ever, she expects me to and on top of that she's never boughten garbage bags so i've used up almost all of mine that I bought in september. If I don't change the garbage bag or take the garbage out it'll never get done, yet she's more than happy to throw her stuff away in the garbage bags I put in the garbage cans (the garbage bags are happily located in my room now).

She takes up all of the space in the shared areas of our dorm (kitchen and bathroom), I have no room to put boxed items because she has all of her crap under there the space is like this | | | the bigger side hers, the smaller side mine. I ask her nicely to move it and she won't so I have to find places to put my stuff.

She keeps me up almost every night because she's talking on the phone as loud as possible until 4 or 5 am and I'll bang on the wall since talking to her doesn't do anything and she'll talk louder. I wish that residence would cut off phone service from 3:30am to 9:00am.

Also she tells me I have to leave the room when her and her boyfriend want to have sex (because I hear it and I told her to either do it when i'm not there or if your going to do it make sure you be as quiet as possible, she moved her bed up against the wall between the two rooms and I hear everything), she's started that since I finished up my tuesday night classes (because that's the only day he comes over).

Oh and she just confronted me about the toaster over (which she uses without my permission) and asked me where it was, I told her it's none of her business and she said well I use it to toast my bread and what is she going to do about toasting her bread now. I told her maybe if you'd buy a toaster you could toast your bread instead of depending on me and my appliances to get you through this semester.

[Seiiryuu]

Anyways! to fast forward a bit, we went through orientation together, classes together, eating together... we were basically stuck at the hip o_O To me, I thought that since I already have such a good group of friends (there were like 30 of us in high school), I didn't feel a great need to make new friends in university and I think my bff felt the same way because by sticking together so much, we seriously didn't put a lot or ANY effort into making new friends >_>

As for the actual LIVING together, I agree that you really don't know your best friend until you've LIVED with them. It's a totally different world altogether when you finally get to know her LIVING style =P lol! I admit that I didn't notice how MESSY my bff was until we shared the same room haha and I didn't realized how OCD I was about messy areas X___X
It takes awhile to adjust and honestly speaking, if you put in the effort to get along and stay good friends then it shouldn't be a problem ^^''
I had small issues with my best friend... like sometimes she'd be very stressed and started ignoring me, or she'd be very cold towards me =X and I had no idea wtf was wrong >_> but I think that died as soon as midterms/finals were over and we went back to usual ^^

OHMYGOD. I have the similar situation too! I ended up with my bff in same university and she's my room mate for 3 years already XD XD but seriously you're damn right, it's different when we're living together, even you got to know them for many years already =.='' Nothing wrong with my bff, but the problem is me. I think she's starting to realize that I'm having tooo much bad side T.T and pity her for getting a bff like me T.T and we have never ARGUE before we become room mates. and the last year at uni were so devastating for me, as sometimes she started to act coldly towards me, maybe she's kinda annoying with my attitude (I didn't blame her at all) but it's kinda sad though to have some conflicts with your own bff T.T Now we're not a room mates anymore, as we're registering on different year, but I love when she's hanging out at my room ^.^ and my new room mate is absolutely cool too but seriously, I'm pitying who gets me as their room mate. I'm sucha a jerk. Poor them though =.='' but I love to be their room mate for sure LOL and yeah, I prefer living with someone I know rather than strangers. Because I know them quite well and I don't have to worry that she'll steal my property , and I'm so lucky to get them as my room mates, they're cool

[Avex]

my roommate and i, we get along quite well. however, it's unfortunate we didn't spend enough time together (i'm an engineering major and i do theatre on campus). i'm always so busy and on campus that i barely see him. this is in addition to my weird sleep schedule (i sleep at 1amish-2amish, compared to the usual 11pmish my roommate goes through every semester).

[mixedup92]

Do any of you guys regret dorming?

[Rainie Yu]

If you choose to dorm with your friend will someone else be dormed with you and your friend??

[aaclove]

I've been living with my best friend at our college dorm and it's been an absolute BLAST! We're both really organized and considerate of each other's spaces. I was so nervous to live with her because I was worried it would ruin our friendship - but we've gotten so incredibly close these past few months.

[xserizangelx]

my roommate has a very bad habit of thinking that my stuff is all her stuff. she goes into my closet and wears my clothes without asking and takes stuff from my room when I'm not there. she also uses my products in the bathroom because my bathroom is outside my room unlike hers. it's freakin annoying as hell sometimes. I'm not that open about stuff like she is. I like her, but I wish she would at least ask. I mean we're close and everything but I never touch her stuff -__-;;

[Kuchiyose Mizu]

My roommate is so silent. :X
She only talks when she needs to, like, when I ask her something, she would just answer.
Nothing else. O_o.

[TrishellePhan]

my 3 roommates party too much, smoke too much weed and hookah. I love them as people but I really hate having them as roommates. =)

[tru__minute]

my roomate:
does not do the garbage
does not do her dishes
does not throw away her rotting grapes sitting on the counter
does not clean up after herself
does not respect me and my suitmates as human beings
does not turn the apartment lights off at night
does not lower her music when we're doing homework
does not go to class very often
does not like to clean her pile of clothes
does not share the closet with me
does not change the toilette paper roll after it's finished
does not clear her hair in the shower

does smoke every 2 minutes
does sleep for 30 hours at a time
does like to leave puddles of water on the bathroom floor
does like to pile her santiary napkins, as she's too lazy to clear the garbage
does like to leave her shoes everywhere.
does invite people over at 4AM in the morning
does wake me up when she invites people over.

i really dislike my roommate.

[XstarXdustX]

My roommate /suite mates are okay I talk to my roommate a little and hardly ever talk to my suite mates it's always a hi! or a good morning so basically were all like anti-social ( i love people but they were just hard to get to know) anyway the only problem is no one wants to clean besides me! it seems like I'm always taking the trash out , cleaning the bathroom, the vanity area, the microwave, doing dishes, sweeping the floor, wiping the table down , mopping augh do I need to go on? They don't do anything! and I'm sick and tired of them ! I left notes on their door and even mentioned that this place needs to be cleaned ..and their response was... okay....are you serious ? okay? but they still don't bother to lift a finger! I hate being in a dirty environment so I just tend to breakdown and clean it anyway.....! And one day I overheard one of the girls saying she's been too tired to do anything ...is she serious? I play field hockey and I'm always at practice, games, or doing something with the team that's tiring and I still manage to clean... so that excuse doesn't work.. The good thing is they go home on weekends! So sometimes when I'm staying I have the whole place to myself which is fantastic~ but still why do I always have to do the cleaning! I swear since this semester is coming to an end when we move back in spring semester were gonna have a long talk because I refuse to keep being a maid.....

Now on to my roommate !

Let me tell you about her! She's nice and everything but she always bring random guys in the room after I've fallen asleep! Do you know how annoying it is to think that when your going to sleep it's just you and your roommate in the room but when you wakeup there is a guy in her bed. I mean don't get me wrong I'm not telling her she can't have anybody over but she should just ask me if it's okay on my part ! One time this boy slept over for a whole week! when I confronted her she said okay I'll tell you when he's going to come over....;her way of doing that was bringing him in the room before i went to sleep! that's still not asking! augh I'm so tired of her at times.. but I won't have to deal with her much longer since she's not dorming in the spring semester due to family problems... so basically I'll have the whole room to myself ! =)


Next year I probably will dorm with my teammates ..I don't think I can take anyone like the bunch I've had.

[x kisekiboshi]

i hate my roommate officially. we've ignored each other for a good month now, and this guy who likes her (and i also know him too) came over at 3 AM. like wtf, she knows i told her not bring random people over at a certain time.

[iceboxx]

my roommate's like one of the most considerate roommates anyone can ever have.
but she puts jay sean's "down" and jay sean's "do you rmb" on replay for a whole freaking month. the prelude to that song SERIOUSLY haunts me in my dreams.

[zoo]

my roommate steals my food, uses my shampoo, and i think she uses my toothpaste too. honestly, i wouldn't mind if she would just ask me. her boyfriend visits at least once or twice a month, and their foreplay often sexiles me not to mention the fact that she webcams with him often and doesn't wear her earphones so i hear EVERYTHING and i don't want to.

what's probably worse is that when i have my headphones on they assume i can't hear anything, so yea (>_>)

my suitemates are all really outgoing party people who drink often. nuff said.