[Noochie]

My friend today came up to me and told me that she had something really serious she needed to talk to me about. She told me that she use to make herself puke but then she stopped that because the acid was pretty much messing her throat up. She said that now she's beyond the bulimic part and that she doesn't eat and she never wants or feels the need to eat. I really don't know what to say. I've never dealt with anything like this before and I really want to help her. I don't know what to say so she wouldn't get offended or more paranoid. Please help me out. She told me I was the only friend she could trust and I want to come out strong with positive things to say. Advice please?

[Tr710]

I think it is my obligation as a true friend to tell my friends the things they need to hear, rather than what they want to hear, even if it pisses them off. I also expect the same from my friends.

Be honest and tell her what you think. People always appreciate honesty. Forget trying to be positive about it, there's nothing positive about slowly killing yourself.

[nobody knows]

I think it is my obligation as a true friend to tell my friends the things they need to hear, rather than what they want to hear, even if it pisses them off. I also expect the same from my friends.

Be honest and tell her what you think. People always appreciate honesty. Forget trying to be positive about it, there's nothing positive about slowly killing yourself.

mostly that



but there was a time for me where I didn't eat for a day (onlyy =P) because my dad kept making fun of me.. I was actually pretty hungry, but after I woke up, I felt nothing and was just used to the empty feeling. until I actually ate something, the hunger came back to me

stuff some food into her if you have to

[sleekz]

this also recently happened to me and i didnt knwo what to tell my friend either. you need to tell her to get help because there can be very serious damage. she may actually shrink, and her period WILL stop eventaully. when her period stops and donest come back for mor ethen 6 months, she may never have kids. eatting disorders are actaully never fully treatable, becuse there are so many chances of relaspe. just try to get hte most help you can get and tlel her that you want the best for her. she may resent you for it but its worth it. also, tellign her she is skinny and pretty actually doesnt work. there is a reverse psychology affect on thos ewith eatting disorders. so i mean dont tell her she's fat or anythign but making little comments liek "your so skinny!" will only encourage her

[diaperBOY]

stuff some food into her if you have to

stupid ^ .... you should support and encourage her to get professional help.. its a good first step that she admits to having a problem.. seeing as you are no expert.. u should definitely get some help

[ILuVTiTTiEZ]

dont say anything, (metaphorically). Give her lots of hugs and kisses and support that she needs, no words needed.

Or you can make her feel more guilty and say something like, "Change for me! I'm your bff, if you can't be healty for yourself, do it for me! I want you as my bride's maid and i cant if you're not gonna be there because of some freak situation that u didnt eat and ended up in the hospital a few days before my wedding! Think of me!! Your BFF!!!"

If she's any friend, hopefully she'll stop or try to change because she is also a good friend and watns to be your bride's maid. Assumeing you're a girl....

idk...thats all i got.

[YELL;OH]

nah, don`t guilt trip her.
tell her you`re there for her and encourage her to seek the help that she needs.

[liljewelz]

Definately tell her what you are thinking and feeling. Also tell her that if she wants to be healthy that she can still eat, just eat healthy foods like fruits, vegetables, grains, meats and things like that. Bulimia/Anorexia is not the answer. Also, you might want to tell her parents so maybe they can get some psychological help for her b/c a lot of times bulimia/anorexia can be treated with psychotherapy since this might be happening b/c she feels insecure and bad about herself. Good luck, and I hope you can help your friend.

[RainFan4ever]

Being supportive because people who do things like that they feel insecure, ugly. When sometimes they aren'tugly or fat. It has something to do with their psychy too though.

Plus, talk to her parents. Maybe they can get counselor for her. Encourage her to go see a nutritionist who can help her with her eating, since she been doing this for so long. She might need a lot vitamins and minerals for her body to recover.

Tell her to get help and you always going to be there to help her too since she trusted u tht uch to tell u she was having this problem. Aneroxia/Bulimic is not the answer. It she kept doing it, it can destroy her. There are many way to lose weight. Tell her find which one is right for her. Other than starving her self, it can cause other health problems.

My lil sis had the same problem now she eating healthy and she look even more radiant than b4 when she start to starve her self. She eats a lot fruits and a lot drink of water, she cook her own meals. She cut down the fast food which it also help clearing up her skin. Her skin has gotten so light too. Her skin look radiant and healthy. I helped her all the way, being supportive, mentally and physicall, I take her out to park to go excercise, and hanging out with her friends. Reminding her to eat and chek up on her. It might get annoyed but I don't care. I want her to live I don't care how annoy I get toward her. Her live is more important than me being annoy. But I'm glad she is healthy now. My sis was never fat to begin with she did it b/c she saw I was so skinny she wanted to be skinny too. I was naturally skinny. I eat a lot but I don't gain weight (high metabolism). I didn't know I made her did things that she did just to be skinny like me. Now, when i hear ppl compliment about how they want to be skinny like me, it worries me to death.

Good luck to ur friend. Keep us updated on how she doing.