In a recent interview with Newsen, singer/actor Kim Hyun Joong talked about his thoughts on dating and marriage.
The reporter asked Kim Hyun Joong, born in 1986 and inexorably approaching 30, about his plans for marriage. The actor immediately replied that he doesn’t think he will be able to, smiling. He said, “Once I finish my military service, get out, and do this and that, don’t you think I’ll be over about 35? A long time ago, I thought I would definitely get married one day, but now I’m not so sure. I like my work so much I don’t think I could be completely devoted to my family. If, one day, I’m met with a dilemma about acting, singing, and holding concerts, I’ll get married then.”
Then what about dating? Kim Hyun Joong said straightforwardly, “If I said I don’t, it would be a lie. I had a girlfriend that I was meeting in secret about a year ago, but I’m not dating anyone right now.” He then explained the difference in his views on dating between him in his early twenties and his late twenties. “Before, like children, I thought that If we said ‘let’s date,’ we were dating. But now, that’s not the case. (Now,) I think there’s a time when sparks fly. Although my older friends say that eventually even that becomes meaningless…”
“When I filmed dramas, I used to think that it was permitted dating. I really liked that, including the feeling of having to accept ‘breaking up’ when the drama was over. Because you’re living in another world. I think that’s one of the things I really like about this recent drama [‘Age of Feeling’],” referring to the love triangle in the show.
The actor explained further that in the drama, there was a girl he liked and a girl that liked him. “I’m the type that no matter what, I like who I like. But, filming this drama, that changed. I began to think that I could like someone that likes me, and that it would be much easier that way.”
Kim Hyun Joong said that now he just wants to date comfortably, and doesn’t care for fiery passion or things of the sort. “Normal dating is the best. Buying her flowers, doing surprises, eating together, and holding hands. I didn’t know that normal was great when I was young, but now I’m getting it.”
When asked if he could date publicly, Kim Hyun Joong said he could never. “Once the relationship is over, the only one affected is the girl. There’s no need to describe a married woman as ‘so-and-so’s girl.’ If it’s not for marriage, I will never publicly date, in order to respect that person’s personal life.”